…continued… from part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6, part 7, part 8 and part 9
Stop judging people based on their looks. Stop writing people off so quickly without giving them a chance and stop judging people before you get to know them. Be discerning and be sensitive too.
I heard about a lady that turned down a guy because she said the guy has mouth odour. If you truly love this guy, why not help him and teach him how to get rid of the odour that occurs sometimes. You know when you have been quiet for long; it is easier for your mouth to smell a little. She could have recommended a gum, Listerine; mouth wash or some mints to the guy, but then she blasted the guy and sent the guy away.
The issue is, we always approach most relationships with the idea of receiving. If she had viewed the relationship with a different mindset of giving or helping, maybe she would have been with that guy longer; if not as a friend but as a lover. She judged him too quickly because of odour and failed to smell the potentials that have been embedded in this young man.
Few months after she rejected the guy, he got an appointment in an oil and gas company and he was sent to Dubai to start work. She went to a friend of hers that she narrated the story of the guy to and she started crying that she sent someone who could have been his potential boyfriend away. This only buttressed my point that she is interested only in what she has to gain in the relationship rather than what she could have impacted. We need to change our gaze and approach.
When you judge people too quickly, you have cut yourself from seeing the best that can come out of them and you have shortened your own gaze. Give some people the benefit of doubt and always seek to be of help rather than receive all the time. It would help you even if you can’t spot the diamond in the rough at first.
…to be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.