Chapter 3:
Figuring Out What You Need To Surrender To
Synopsis
Most people fail to allow and surrender to several circumstances in
life.
If you are one of them, you are probably confused on the
concepts of giving up or surrendering to something. Surrendering is
to yield a strong emotion, temptation or influence to some outer or
interior condition while giving up is to abandon a quest, desired goal
or dream that you have devoted energy, resources or time to.
Your Goals
Surrendering is a positive act that when embraced will allow you to
leave the past, with all its sense of accomplishment, frustrations,
memories behind. The main question is, how can you figure out that
you need to surrender to? Here are the things you need to do:
Listen To Yourself - The best way to know if you need to
surrender something is to be conscious of what you feel. If you
think that you are on a wrong path, you have to give up and try
to accept the reality.
Get Outside Evaluation -
If you are concentrating hard on
startup, project, idea or anything, you need to get into the
subway vision mode. Simply consider your past activities and
know what you have learned from it. You also need to analyze
what you will be in the future if you are still fighting for a
certain thing or not.
Fight Atychiphobia –
If is also called as fear of failure. Most
people are experiencing this type of phobia. Before you allow or
surrender anything, you need to weigh what will be its
consequences. Then, whether you accept it or not, you have to
face it. If you are afraid of losing something you value, it is hard
for you to surrender it.
With your ideas on how to evaluate when you need to allow and
surrender, you don’t need to think over and over again. You can easily
recognize what you really want and what you need to fight for.
However, like other people, you are also afraid on the consequences
of giving up and surrendering. Before surrendering, here are the
things you need to keep in mind:
You Already Learned What is Important – Life never fails to
provide you a second chance.
Every morning, you have a
chance to change your life. You can use this second chance as
your motivation. Though you have failed in the past, your
experiences are the best key for better life. This second chance
is your way to learn and adjust your attitudes toward future
promises.
Problems are Natural for All - Everyone has their own
problems. Sometimes, you will enjoy your life, but other times
may not. Even if you have various problems in life, you can
handle it. You just need to be strong and fight for the things you
believe that it is meant for you.
Pain Makes Your Strong and Mature – If you commit mistakes,
don’t use these errors as your weaknesses. Instead, use them to
become more mature and stronger. With your mistakes, you
can grow and overcome your failure. Before surrendering or
giving up something, always follow what your heart says.
Life is Too Simple – If you think that you can’t handle
something, then, this is the chance to give up or surrender. You
don’t need to make your life even more complicated. Just go on
with the flow and learn from your experiences.
Surrendering is the best way option if you think that everything is
falling apart. Though you want to surrender, it doesn’t depict that you
are weak. It means that you are brave enough to accept that you can’t
do it and prefer to move on with your life.