Why It's So Important To Be Gentle On Yourself When Reprogramming Your Thoughts..

I remember 6 years ago I used to have the most negative thoughts about myself and about life. I created stories about things all of the time. I would stay up at night wondering whats going to happen or what this person thinks about what I said to them or how I could have responded differently. I would have conversations in my head over & over and I couldn’t fall asleep.

Once I realized that I was the observer and not the one who had to take on the thoughts as my own, I thought this was a great realization, but the thoughts were still coming in and I didn’t know how to get them out. I remember laying in bed and got caught up in a story in my brain and I grabbed my head and applied pressure to it and said "Stop thinking, none of these thoughts are real." I was very hard on myself thinking that I literally had to have a quiet mind. This is not true at all.

Present day, thoughts still come in, nowhere near the negative thoughts that I had years ago. I’m very gentle on the way I view myself & the way life is at the moment. I never really look to the past or create stories about what could have happened because nothing can change the past. Sometimes I think my thoughts are all positive because I don’t say anything near as mean as I used to say to myself. Ive gained a lot more self love for myself than I used to have.

However just because I may not say mean things to the point of slander doesn’t mean I still don’t have some thoughts that are not very self loving. There are few thoughts that still comes in, “You should have done this today.” “You need to get out of bed and go do this.” or “You should be here by now.”I know these aren’t as negative as my old thoughts, but these thoughts still look down upon myself. I know in a way they are acting in a way of love sharing what I could be doing but they still are a form of negative self talk.

I’ve come a long way from what I used to hear to what I now hear and I’m proud of that and it takes compassion and thats the first step to viewing yourself and others for where you or they are in life. The thoughts will keep coming in, so always remember you are not those thoughts and you do not have to cling to them & let them control you.

I think its safe to say that all of us have thoughts that come in that we wonder why are still there, but its because we choose to keep believing them and sometimes we are still learning lessons from them. Be gentle on yourself as you learn to unprogram your mind from everything you learned growing up.

I would love to hear your thoughts and comments on what has come up for you through the journey of undoing old thoughts inside your head. Did you make the realization that you were ever being too hard on yourself and then bridged the gap from there to be more gentle? What else have you experienced through this process? Thank you for reading and if you would like to follow me on any other form of social media you can do so below!