Ah, the fear of failure...
The one thing that we all dread, but is it as bad as we all think?
Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
I failed a lot throughout school and yes, it did suck big time.
But in normal life situations, where things might not go as planned, what do we do when we fail? Do we give up, or do we persevere?
When we attempt to talk to that person we like and we get rejected, does it mean anything?
Recently I was out in town and I saw my dream girl working behind a counter at a cafe. I'd seen her once before and even though I had the skill set of approaching girls during the day inside of me, it had lay dormant for too long and I was too scared to approach. That was months ago...
This time I went to talk to her and she said she was in a relationship. I was rejected, I failed at getting her number and taking her out on a date, but if I hadn't gone to talk to her, I never would have known.
I succeeded in that moment of pulling myself together and taking action.
Did I care? Sure, I would have loved to have taken her for coffee or a drink, but rejection and failure are nothing to be afraid of.
If we are constantly afraid of failing then we will not even attempt the things that scare us.
The fear of failure, creates the feeling of failure.
Next time you're thinking of taking a leap of faith and something is holding you back, ask yourself "What if this works out?"
Until next time
Take Care
David