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For Daniel Gilbert, a professor at Harvard University, who has been studying the nature of human happiness for years, happiness is a sense of well-being:
"It's hard to say what it is, but I know that when I feel it, it's just a state of well-being, one of being well".
"... Human beings have a" psychological immune system ", that is, a system of unconscious cognitive processes, which leads them to a" synthetic happiness ".
This is an "ability to convert the negative into positive", due to a mechanism of "compensatory rationalization" through which, when negative events occur, people tend to look for excuses that alleviate their emotional state ... "
For Gilbert:
• The biggest factor affecting happiness is human relationships and the amount of time people spend with family and friends.
• Another factor is the "shopping wise" for happiness.
People tend to have more pleasure from experiences than from things. So, if you have a certain amount of money to spend on a holiday or a good meal, it will give you more happiness than a durable good or an object. One reason for this is that experiences tend to be shared with other people.
For me:
• In addition to human relationships and "shopping wise", it is necessary to have a "happy thought" a "pleasant distraction" that accompanies us during the days, as a guardian who defends and preserves the serenity of our soul.
Try to stay with the people who make you feel good, try to make satisfying experiences, try above all to have your secret positive, happy thoughts every day ...
Perhaps you will never be really happy, but you will surely live a life full of emotions and satisfactions.