Sometimes it happens that we live with so many things on our minds that we unconsciously put aside ourselves and give priority to the other people around us, when in fact the first thing we should do is to take care of our own needs and then become interested in and support others.
The fact that we lose interest in ourselves happens many times and in some cases people find it hard to realize it, however, there are actions so common that we do that are indications to make a stop and take action, such as, for example, never refuse someone or postpone plans to go to meet those of others because there is simply the belief that if I say "I can not" to that person this could bother me or lose the trust placed in me.
There is also an erroneous belief in thinking that by giving ourselves the necessary attention we become selfish and perhaps this is a compelling reason for our attitudes about others, but it is not so, there is a difference that we must keep in mind and is that the interest in oneself is something that is born of concern or compassion for the benefit and welfare of oneself, while selfishness is when we ignore others in addition to an arrogant attitude.
Beginning to apply techniques to reverse these behaviors and improve our lives may not be such an easy job since it is possible that, as we make changes, the person may feel guilty for not pleasing others when they want it. If you have gone through moments like these or know someone, this episode number fifteen of the Resilience series is for you,
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