One
Family, what is the most important?
Harmony.
The ancients said: "He is an auspicious person, and his anger is an evil spirit."
What it means is that harmony brings good fortune, and it does not cause harm.
First of all, harmony gives the family health and safety.
Studies have confirmed that 70% of people's diseases are not due to family discord, and 50% of cancers come from families.
People live in a mood, eating mountains and delicacies, wearing silk and silk fabrics, but all day long flying chickens, noisy families, everyone is not happy, there is no health and peace without happiness.
Some families are not rich, but they are happy and happy. Every day they laugh, and the life of a rough meal is also enviable.
Second, family harmony is the starting line for children.
Family education is the starting point of all education.
In a native family, a child develops the most basic conduct and behaviors - lifestyle, work habits, study habits, and people's habits.
Parents' ways of getting along and doing things are the cornerstone of the home education environment.
Only in a harmonious family environment can we talk about children’s education and talk about the child’s starting point in life.
Families and all things are flourishing, and the families that thrive in family business are certainly harmonious. The families that are full of contradictions and conflicts will fail in the “internal consumption”.
The family is our closest person. Because of our closeness, we tend to ignore respect and speak with no scruples.
Do not express bad feelings in front of the family. Sometimes, the closest people are the ones we hurt the most.
The most stupid thing one can do is to give the best temper to a stranger and give the worst temper to his family.
Under the same roof, the spoon will inevitably touch the edge of the pot. When a family is together, facing the daily life, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts.
At this time, avoid "cold violence" and give family "fear the face"; forget about things before you, don't accumulate contradictions; don't just talk about "reason", but also talk about "emotion", "passion" pass, natural "just" straight Now.
Two
A lifetime, what is the most important?
have a clear conscience
Mencius said: "Yang does not fall in the sky, but does not lie to people."
To be a man, raise his head to be worthy of the sky, and bow his head to be worthy of the people.
The right place in life is neither close to money nor close to the right, but close to the soul. True happiness is neither wealth nor everything is right, but conscience.
Confidence is the foundation of one person. One can deceive others but cannot deceive oneself. In this sense, conscience is the "cautiousness of independence."
You can see the clear water by dialing duckweed. It will take a long time to see people. The most difficult thing to do when walking on the troubled world is a conscience.
Life is sometimes unfair. A person may be misunderstood, suffer grievances, and even be hurt.
Even so, we still choose to be a good person. After all, people are not living for others. Innocentness is a reward in itself.
A person should be upright, simple, and not counting; books are divided, not to deceive.
Doing things but seeking straight out of the world, there is a scale in mind, and who is light and who can distinguish clearly.
There are some things that have cleared after a long time. Some people have lightened after a long time.
Be worthy of being a man and get things done.
Life is alive and there is something to lose. The fish and the bear's paw can't have both. Sometimes the pay doesn't necessarily pay off. Don't be too demanding and unsatisfied, but seek my heart.
Before his death, Su Dongpo said calmly to the weeping son: "What should I cry? I will never be evil in my life, and my confidence will not fall into hell."
Wang Yangming’s last words, “This heart is bright, and the husband's reply,” this heart is bright, what else can be said, why leave behind the last words?
These are all brilliant examples of "have a clear conscience."
Three
One person, what is the most important?
be oneself.
Everyone is not only the most common laity in the crowd, but also the unique person in the crowd.
"Altar Scripture": "The saints ask the heart not to seek the Buddha, but the fools ask the Buddha not to seek the heart."
The Buddha just pointed out the direction. To realize and repair the evidence still depends on oneself. In fact, it is his own self and the true wisdom and blessings are all cultivated by him.
Therefore, the most important thing in life is to be yourself.
Do not have to please the world, please others, continue to enrich their own minds, do a good job, ordinary life will also shine.
To be yourself, it is important to be yourself.
Life is often from "serious" to "indifferent," from unchangeable to open-mindedness. There are too many things to do, but not much to do.
We do not know when we have lived in the eyes of others and lived to meet the expectations of others.
People who lost themselves all share a common characteristic and are very concerned about the eyes of others.
Because you are too uncertain about who you are, you need to obtain a sense of value and presence from the evaluation of others.
Zhuangzi referred to this state as "losing one's own self and losing one's own nature." Instead of becoming oneself, we have become a member of the crowd who has lost its label.
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Zhou Guoping said:
"Fame, property, knowledge, etc. are things that are outside of the body. Everyone can get it, but no one can feel life in place of you. After you die, no one can live for you again.
If you truly realize this, you will understand that the most important thing to live in the world is to live your own characteristics and tastes.
Whether your life is meaningful or not, the standard to measure is not external success, but your unique understanding and adherence to the meaning of life, so that your self emanates the brilliance of personality. ”