WHAT TO DO WHEN WE ARE CRITICIZED?

There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nothing. This means, then, that criticism is part of our daily life and, in fact, they are inevitable.

We can often see that, in the face of criticism, people react in different ways: some get angry, respond to it or attack, while other people simply ignore them. There are truly virtuous people who manage to listen to them with serenity, correct what they consider to be true of them and do not bother themselves because of what they consider lies. Wonderful!

It is also common to see people who, when criticizing others, hide behind the motto that "my criticism is constructive", or "I tell you from the bottom of my heart" '. But the truth is that the criticism depends on the intention with which they are said, the words with which they say the form to say them, and very specially, from whom they come.

THE FIRST IS TO RECOGNIZE IF WE ARE IN A CONSTRUCTIVE OR DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM.

Constructive criticism usually comes from people who want the best for us. A close relative, a teacher, a psychologist, a good friend, that is, come from critical people, with knowledge of the subject, someone we admire or respect, who also has the moral authority to do so. If the criticism is constructive, it is intended to help us, and generally in addition to pointing out our faults, they are accompanied by advice or suggestions to correct them, which is worth considering.

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The destructive criticism instead, only seeks to harm us or make us feel bad. It usually focuses on our failures, seeks to attack us directly or knock us down, and therefore, does not include practical advice that can help us improve and grow.

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RESPONDING TO CRITICISM, WITH CALM AND KINDNESS.

There is nothing that makes us great people like the way we respond to a criticism, whatever the nature is. Showing respectful should always be the watchword, even thank the criticism if we consider that this can be useful.

One way to keep calm before a criticism is to let the immediate emotions cool down, for which it is convenient, in the first moments, to breathe, to shut up and try to focus on something different or some pleasant memory.

This will reduce the tension of the moment, avoiding doing or saying something that worsens the situation or which we may regret later. This will allow us to analyze the situation better and act more rationally.

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EVALUATE WHAT IS TRUE IN WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.

For this it would be very convenient to listen with an open mind, since it is possible that other people can tell us things that make us reflect, which could be a valuable learning experience.

In this case we should not put ourselves on the defensive, or invent excuses, especially if there is much truth in what we have been told. The convenient thing is to listen to the criticism and not try to show that we are perfect.

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If we receive a criticism from someone who does not even know us, is not based on real facts or who clearly wants to hurt us, it is advisable not to pay attention and make it clear that they will not influence our decisions or our way of acting.

FREE OF STRESS AFTER CRITICISM.

If after receiving a criticism we feel stressed or overwhelmed, let's do something that helps us relax or console ourselves. We can taste a good meal, go for a walk, share a good movie, for example.

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This will help us to distract our attention, to restore our inner balance and move forward. Remember that no criticism, however hard it may be, must affect us to the point of making us lose our self-confidence, or our self-esteem.

They are only points of view about some aspect related to our person, being a very valuable practice to make us stop importing too much what people say about us.