In every session I have, I’m always asked what are the characteristics of an unfaithful person. As I wrote in my book “Love: as Simple and as Complicated,” the following characteristics do not give a 100% guarantee that infidelity exists, but to have several of these characteristics together are enough to give us a sort of warning.
- The Cell phone
These devices that we use for communication should be normal, have passwords, and are almost forbidden to touch. She or he takes the cell phone to the restroom, the shower, sleeps with it under the pillow, and brings up the argument that its use is strictly personal. It’s normal that all devices such as iPads, tablets, and pen drives should possess a password in case they get lost, in order to safeguard the information within.
Pero, ¿por qué su pareja, su compañía tiene prohibido tocar o al menos acercarse al celular? La persona infiel, nunca tiene contactos, tiene todo el historial vacío o en horarios extraños tiene mensajes o llamadas. Hay quienes hasta prefieren ponerse en modo avión, déjeme decirle que ese vuelo lleva más pasajeros.
But why is one’s partner forbidden from touching or, at least, getting close to one’s cell phone? An unfaithful person’s contacts list is empty, has their call history erased, or receives calls or messages at weird hours of the night. There are some that even prefer to leave their phones in airplane mode; in that case, let me just tell you that that flight carries more passengers than you think.
2.LIE AFTER LIE
An unfaithful person normally lives their lives lying over and over again. They don’t mention anything about what they’re up to and their partner starts to find out little by little. They find out that that things didn’t happen as they said. Then one ends up asking personally and gets another version. Lies have short legs; they don’t get too far.
3.THEY RUN TO THE SHOWER
Esto es muy interesante, la persona infiel llega a casa y corre a la ducha. No habla, no se deja abrazar y corre a bañarse. No espera nada y es una conducta repetida. Rápido quiere borrar cualquier evidencia o indicio. Ojo, que esto es una característica que normalmente tiene una persona infiel.
This is very interesting: the unfaithful person runs to the shower as soon as they get home. They don’t talk. They don’t let themselves be hugged and run to get bathed. They don’t wait for anything and this gets repetitive. They want to quickly erase any evidence or proof. Be careful. This is typical behavior of an unfaithful person.
- EXTRAORDINARY EXPENSES
You notice that they show a change in their wardrobe, spend more on clothing, want to go to the gym, which they never thought of before. When one starts to display a bit of an exaggerated attitude for their image or tries to attract attention to themselves through outward appearance, this could be due to their need to attract their lover’s attention.
- INDIFFERENCE OR EXTREME ATTENTION
They’re indifferent or or suddenly display extreme attention. It doesn’t matter if they are intense at the beginning or how memorable, but the changes in intensity in one’s actions is key. Men and women alike know their partners and also know if things are fine or if something is wrong in the way they receive affection. They go from one extreme to another. They either start to drastically move away from you or start to unexpectedly get close to you.
- STRANGE HOURS
Something “important” suddenly comes up, strange working hours, comes home in uneven hours, hangs out with unexpected friends… They start to behave strangely. They don’t tell you what they’re up to saying that it’s their personal life. Within those strange schedule changes, we can discover some warning signs. These are certain aspects of those who are unfaithful. Infidelity is not an exclusive trait to only one sex. It’s even worse in social media where anything goes.
Here’s an advice: If you’re unfaithful or have been close to being so, it doesn’t matter how you try to justify it or explain it. The ending is always the same: you will destroy the love you have with your partner as well as your family because the pleasure will be temporary, but your family’s pain will last forever. Don’t lose everything for nothing. Hopefully you can think it over today before it’s too late.
