Comparison is a thug that robs your joy. But it's even more than that - Comparison makes you a thug who beats down somebody - or your soul - Ann Voskamp
Do you always see yourself comparing yourself into others? May it be a sibling, family member, friend or even someone that you do know here on steemit or other social media sites?
If you are like me sometimes I am a fan of scrutinizing and comparing myself to others. Honestly speaking I am living in a insecure lifestyle. My younger brother is an amazing artist and the youngest is really a smart girl which is musically inclined and for the elder one that happens to be me yeah I am also envious. I always compare myself unto them and even ask myself "Why not me?"
Though I motivate myself, that yes I can do it and stop comparing myself to others still I am still experiencing it. If the answer is yes on the first question "I am sending you a warm virtual hugs and telling you that You are not ALONE. Well many of us are experiencing this type of thing.
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Over the course of years, we are trained to compete into other folks. Compete in a way to know who is better may it be in school, work or even at home.
Do not get me wrong on this competition is good as long as it is healthy! If it brings out the best in you that is absolutely okay! If you are motivated by it to be better that is okay!
Comparing yourself into others is like the value of Pi π wherein it has 3.14 and other succeeding numbers after. Once you begin comparing you will never find an end value because you will be looking on all avenue of comparison. It is a never ending process and you'll never know that you hare already drown in your own sinkhole that you created called "they are better".
Comparison starts at a young age, rooting to envy to others. You might be thinking in your child years on why your friend or neighbor has a better toy, house or more allowance than you. Then you will be thinking that life is not really fair. As you grow old, these somehow trivial stuff will be hunting you down, some words that you have in mind is "I cannot do it" , "I am not good enough" and "they are way better than me" And it will continue as your life progresses.
This thing about comparing oneself is a part of us. This makes us a human being capable to feel this kind of emotion and certainly you are not the only one experiencing this type of stuff. But let me tell you something it should really be stopped (And I am also telling this to myself) because staying on this state only robs the joy and happenings in life. It has more disadvantages rather than benefits believe me.
- When you compare yourself to others you always see the worst in yourself.
You will be focusing on their skills and competency and you yourself will be somehow stalled in the background you will start thinking that they can do it so let them do it. Even though by heart you know that you can also do it.
- When you compare, you focus on the wrong person.
You only have 1 life to spare focus on the right person! Focus on yourself, he is good at something that is okay! You can be good in your own way.
- When you compare yourself to others , time is wasted.
Comparing their achievement unto yours is just wasting your time, why not try to look for things to improve yourself instead on looking to them.
- Majority it is a lost, less gain
Entrepreneurs love to take some risk, calculated risk. When you compare yourself it is hitting not only your time, it also hits your ego, your passion and your your pride and dignity.
- Comparison creates resentment
It brings not only resentment to the other person involved but also resentment to yourself.
- When you compare you can only see the tip of the iceberg.
In savoring the idea that the other person is way better than you, you forgot to think about that he/she is also experiencing some issues in his/her life. You began to focus only on the things that you see. Sometimes we also "over-estimate them"
- Thinking of yourself better than others or belittling others is still a comparison and it is not healthy.
The idea of enjoying someone who is failing in life or you are way better than them is somehow not morally right. It only creates jealousy over connecting to other folks.
Since it is a Sunday we should not be filling yourself with the negativity vibes hence we need to release it! Flush it out in our system and here are some practical things that you can do to help you lessen this issue.
Remind yourself that No one is perfect
Although you are seeing them successful in their field or whatever they are doing in life always remember that they are also human like you. They are feeling some pain inside and if they are triumphant on something remember once they also suffered something not the same as you are right now though it might be worst or easy. They have their own struggle! Some of them you might know or some you doesn't. So next time you compare yourself to someone always remember You probably do not know all the details of their life
Practice the word "Gratitude"
When we practice it we recognize the awesome things that we have. Awesome things that we sometimes forget because we are too focus on other people.
Learn to appreciate more and compete less
Although there are times wherein competition is really inevitable that doesn't mean that you need to especially in life. Your life is your own and you are the only one who will be able to encourage and uplift yourself most of the times. Try to appreciate and compliment the works of other folks trust me it creates wonders.
Rather can compare, be inspired
If you compare you always find a negative thing in life but if you find inspiration from them you can definitely move forward and become a better person. It is on how you see the scope :)
Try to send a message to the person whom you feel that you are competing, humbly and genuinely ask them on what are the things that made them successful and learn from them Be Inspired and Motivated!
What you just need to do is just be yourself give your 100% of everything in that way no regrets! Everything will fall into places when the right time is. Believe me the struggle is real for most of us, but admitting that we have this short comings and willing to move forward and focus on improving ourselves is really worth the effort in the long run.
I do hope that somehow it motivate you in a way. If you liked what you read kindly resteem the post in that way the message can be shared to other folks too experiencing this battle.
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