Once you are obsessed too much with the idea that you should be loved, that you need love, you are holding a wrong concept.
You can go on sitting with that concept -- nobody is going to come to you, because once people become suspicious that you are waiting for love, they become afraid. They will avoid you; they won't come on your path.
They will say goodbye from far away.
At the most they will say hello and escape because they become intuitively aware that somebody is there ready to exploit them. Your desire to be loved appears to the other person as an exploitation.
The other becomes afraid because he sees that you are going to use him as a means. He starts feeling that he is going to become a victim.
So people who are asking that they should be loved are never loved.
At the most people can show sympathy to you, and sympathy is very ugly. Who wants sympathy? Sympathy is for those who have failed completely in love.
Those who have no hope now -- only they settle with sympathy; at least something is good. But I don't see that there is any need for you to settle for sympathy.
My suggestion is that you change your desire.
Rather than your needing love, start thinking in terms of wanting to love -- and see the difference.
Immediately there will be a radical change. Just change these words, focus on this new idea -- 'I want to love people' -- then who is preventing you? You can go on loving as many people as you want.
In fact so many people are hungry for love; everybody is hungry for love. Have you seen people who are not?
Everybody has an appetite for love, and nobody feels that enough has happened to him.
So change your desire, otherwise you will be in misery.
God is not for Sale
