If you need to 'work on your relationship' then the person you are with is not your ultimate lover
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Psychologists and marriage counselors tell us that "relationship is something we should work hard on". That if we want to be happy with our spouse then we need to break the routine, to keep the finger on the pulse, and as a rule to always be alert, and put effort into our love life.
Not really.
Such convention is coming from the old world, the rational mind which is trained so well to find what is not working and then to come up with methods and systems and ways to fix it.
When you are ready you will meet someone who is ready too, and you two will have a relationship that is harmonious, flowing, balanced; in one word – appropriate. It will "work out" itself, naturally, not because you will need to "work on it", but because who you two are!
So what to do if you find yourself in a troubling relationship, one that is full of drama, or boredom? Keep on doing your inner work on yourself. It's not a work, it's allowing your spiritual growth, the change that naturally happens. And when you change one of two will happen: your spouse will change too, naturally and effortlessly, or you two will no longer fit each other and separate in your own ways.