Exploring the Depths of Emotional Bonds
Physical contact alone does not define a relationship. What is often referred to as love in today's world is, in fact, a mutual benefit scheme.
You need to fall in love; something of you must go. Only then is there room for love.
How can we let go of the past and the difficult events in our life? Alexander, I thought love is about coming together, not about breaking up.
These situations are widespread because we are not looking at life as life. Our education systems, our idea of science and technology have all deduced themselves into how to use everything for our benefit. From the smallest bacteria to the largest animal on the planet, everything is to be used for our benefit. Unfortunately, human beings are also included.
What people call love today is, in reality, just a mutual benefit scheme. You give me this; I'll give you that. The moment you don't give me that, I won't give you this. Hence, the question about love often starts with breakup and divorce. In my understanding of life, love is about weaving two lives together, two lives becoming like one.
Nowadays, we talk about breakup as if it's an inevitable part of love. People wonder about the expiry date—how long will this last? This is an unfortunate situation because people may not comprehend the profoundness of sharing life with somebody. When you truly want to include somebody in your life, you have to make space. Something of you should fall.
The English expression "falling in love" is apt. You cannot rise, fly, or climb in love; you can only fall. Right now, we are trying to climb in love, leading to constant troubles. Is there a French expression for falling in love? "Tomber amoureux" is the equivalent in French. It's heartening to know that the French are still falling in love, as opposed to the mutual benefit scheme it has become for many.
Love is not about getting what you want; it's an opportunity to make yourself vulnerable, an opportunity to lose yourself willingly. It's not a profit-oriented project. Love is about willingly going for a loss. The moment you think about profit, friction arises. The modern societal structure, focused on what one can get out of the other, leaves little room for genuine love.
A humorous anecdote illustrates the challenges of managing relationships. A French man, facing a breakup, pretends to read a gourmet recipe to hide his emotions. Even if you tear up while cutting onions, good cooking makes the food taste better.
The English language's narrow interpretation of a relationship as solely body-based is limiting. Relationships can be intellectual and emotional. Emotional relationships are often more touching and tender than physical ones.
In conclusion, true love involves falling, making space for each other, and willingly embracing vulnerability. It transcends the physical and explores the emotional depth that gives life meaning.