Most of the time arguments are inevitable.
We throw each other statements to bring one another down.Bringing up mistakes of the past is on top of the list.Telling dramatic hypothetical sins is also popular.We also go to the extremes of physically hurting the one we’re arguing with.In the end we go our separate ways.And what do we get out of these kind of unhealthy arguments? Getting hurt.
So how do we actually get something good out of a bad argument? Is that even possible?Well,it can be.
。First, focus on the subject you are arguing about.It’s easier to talk matters this way than bringing up so many topics at the same time.
。Keep the composure eventhough you are both emotional.This ain’t easy but we have to.
。Keep in mind that the person you are having an argument with and your relationship with him/her is more important than your ego.
。Try not to kill each.Yes,this is very important.You don’t wanna end up in jail right? hahaha So chill.
。Give each other some space to cool down.Resume talking when both of you have an ear to listen.
。Consider his/her feelings as you open your mouth.Don’t just speak for the sake of throwing back a hurtful statement.
。Try to come up with a resolution to your problem.If there’s none? Leave it for now.
。Do not make blaming a habit.You don’t have to find someone to blame in every bad event that happens.
。No matter how tempting it may get Do not bring up past mistakes or your little argument will escalate so fast and will never end.You will be caught in a loop.
。Don’t brag about what you did for him/her you did those because you love this person unless you were compelled to do such things.
。And most importantly try to make up to each other whether it was your fault or not.
It’s a good way to end a war.
My man and I had a rough road throughout the years that we’ve been together.We are from different families,different backgrounds,different countries,different continents and sometimes it feels like we both came from different planets.We just can’t help but argue about so many things and it sucks the life out of us.But after all our dramas we figured out a way to not go overboard.We valued each other and our relationship more than our petty quarrels.And that brought us Peace around the house.
Nope we are still not the ideal couple however we have improved and we will keep on trying.
Relationship isn’t about feelings alone.It is your commitment to each other no matter the situation.Learn how to Love Unconditionally.
Remember,argue to resolve your issues and move forward.
Thank you for your time I hope you like it and if you have any comment,just drop them below.
May God bless us always.
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