*photo from pixabay
This year we will celebrate 26 years of marriage. When you tell people you have been married for that long the first response is usually:
"How did you do it?"
My first answer: We just didn't get divorced.
We just didn't get divorced. Did we make mistakes and fight? Yes! We had fights or disagreements over money, kids, discipline, household chores add many other important and silly topics. Sometimes we resolved the problem quickly with great skills, other times an issue would raise to the top over and over until we "did a better job at resolving it".
Another common question, "What do you talk about after 25 years?"
This question is much easier to answer. We have lived together for most of our adult lives. We share the same family, friends, history, music, bed, we know the details of each other's careers, hopes, dreams, and disappointments. We know the same jokes, stories, etc. We have seen each other at our best and worst, sick and well, winning and losing. We talk about the mundane and the "big stuff" fairly calmly now. We talk about whatever is on our minds.
Tonight my husband gave me the regular weekday call, it starts with the same words each time.. "I am just leaving the office...." I noticed when my phone rang, I felt excited. I wanted to share with him some interesting details of my day. During that call we exchanged some quick information and he is going to run an errand on his way home. After all this time, I am excited to hear about his day, tell him about mine and we will likely talk about whatever else comes up.
Tonight's agenda will likely include: The activities in the Crypto-Markets, His Day, The NBA Basketball finals, Our daughter's upcoming wedding, and dinner. As well as whatever else comes up.
I don't know what tomorrow brings and maybe I will be writing about divorce next week. For now I am looking forward to my friend getting home from work.
Some people including my Father, (irony) think that marriage is outdated. By the way, Dad and his "girlfriend" have been together for 36 years. Grins.
What are your thoughts?