This life is a funny one. No success seems to be satisfying. We strive to be successful in certain things by setting goals and targets, and the moment we attain it, we look forward to more. I remembered when I started on Steemit. I set the target to reach reputation 50, and now I am past it, I still aim for more. I like that about life. A constant setting of targets motivates us, so we won’t rest on our laurels. We should always and constantly strive to be better than who we were yesterday. The motivation has to come from within, and not purely from external forces.
When we motivate ourselves from the inside, the competition is within us. The drive, the fire, the passion is fueled from within and it drives us on. The moment we lose our motivation or fail to set a target in life, we are not really living anymore since there is no motivation to go on living.
The mistake we all make, including me, is that we measure up against others. We see others attain a certain height and we feel we are failing. You are not failing. Each man has a clearly defined path to follow. Go through yours. No one has it easy. It might look easy, but they didn’t have it easy. Don’t fall into that comparison trap, because it will shatter your confidence and affect your goals. The more others keep going, the more you will feel you are failing. The more they keep attaining new grounds, the more you will feel you are going down. (If you go deeper, maybe we can discover oil, hahaha. Jokes, don’t go deeper please.)
Your parents compare you with another family friend who got admission faster than you? Your friend got married earlier than you, and you feel you are failing in life? Your friend just built a house and you are still living in a rented apartment? Your friend traveled out of the country and you haven’t even seen a plane before, except in pictures? Your friend gave birth and you are still expecting? Your friend recently started a booming business and you are still working for someone, earning a stipend?
Calm down, you are not failing. If anything, be happy for them and let their success fuel you to achieve things too. But, don’t ever fall into the comparison trap. Your motivation still has to come from your inside. Let the outside reality spark an internal realization in you, to propel you to an even greater height.
We are all different. We are all unique. We have a clearly different path. We might have the ability to do the same thing, but we will still end up doing it differently because we are all unique in our own rights. I am not saying you cannot evolve, yes, you can, but you have to be comfortable with who you are, not who situations or comparison is forcing you to be. You are unique, you are special, and your uniqueness makes you stand out.
It is good to admire what others have and achieve, but face your path, because only in your path and your strength will you be able to achieve what your heart wanted. Remember, who you are, is bigger than what you have because what you have is as a result of who you are. Never confuse it.
...to be continued...
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