How do I sort my life? For me, I've accepted that there will always be things about myself that I am unsatisfied with. When I work on those things (or eliminate them) other items will appear which I am also unsatisfied.
I also have a variety of choices in front of me.
As an example, when I was younger, I never went to events in public. I avoided it as much as possible because I had to deal with the public enough in my daily job (retail), I had no desire to deal with it outside of my job too. I was afraid, mostly. And very tired. Ten years later, I do go out in public, do solo activities and go to festivals. However, about once a week, an interaction occurs that leaves a bad taste in my mouth and makes me want to crawl back into my cave and not want to go out again. So I'm still unsatisfied with the act of going out and dealing with people. However I've chosen to take the social hit of going out alone, knowing some adult is going to say something utterly dumb to me over staying home and wishing I could have gone out.
Most of what I do is weighing of outcomes, then sticking to what I decide. It's all about choice for me. And some days I do choose to not do anything. I've accepted that I'll be unhappy with aspects of myself and that I'll still be unhappy with aspects of myself in the future. I'll keep trying to enjoy life one day at a time though. And I'll worry about the rest later.