In times past, before I got into a relationship, I always wondered why some relationships ended up the way they did. I wondered how they degraded into frequent fights, betrayal, hatred and bitterness.
In many of these relationships that went downhill, the reason for the emotional drainage, lack of trust, disloyalty and unfaithfulness was almost the same.
Soon after being in a relationship myself, I began to see and understand the root cause of some of these problems that lead to the devastation of many relationships.
In itself, being more concerned about you seems very harmless and not potent enough to lead to the subtle end of a one time beautiful relationship but I tell you, the earlier such things are dealt with, the better.
Selfishness is one deadly character many are not aware they posses. Even when somehow it is told them that they exhibit it, they tend to give some form of excuse for it.
Being selfish and self-centered has caused so many relationships to hit the rocks and break into pieces. It's like a cankerworm that eats away the precious fabric of a relationship.
Naturally, relationships are supposed to be birthed on the foundation of love. All types of relationships, be it family relationships, friendships, work related relationships and romantic relationships can only thrive where love is. Selfishness and love can not exist together. They are in the opposite directions and they war against each other.
Selfishness is at the foundation of most break ups, divorce and separations. People don't realize it but it's selfishness that drives a person to withdraw from a relationship all because they no longer "feel" the way they once felt at the beginning when their emotions were urging them on.
Selfishness is what makes a person revoke their stated commitment all because they think someone else would make them feel better. Selfishness is what makes someone suck all the life out of one person and then, abandon them to go look for someone else to suck the life out of.
This display of selfishness has resulted in the collapse of many promising marriages and even many relationships that should have metamorphosed into something the whole world would appreciate.
One must understand that being self centered won't let you find lasting love. It will cause you pain and bring you delay and hitches in relationships. The kind of relationship you want will always be a mirage.
You've got to take deliberate steps and make conscious efforts against selfishness before it ruins you. Choose to live life as a giver rather than as a taker. Don't be the person who's always wanting the better treatment and who's not willing to let their partner have it instead.
Love isn't self seeking. This means that love isn't on a mission to satisfy itself. Love's delight is in enriching the other person. Therefore, be intentional about demonstrating love.
Successful marriages are not for selfish people. To make that relationship work, you must embrace love's advise. This is it:Make up your mind to put the interest of your partner before yours always.
Thanks for reading. I hope it was worth your time.
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