Why you should end comparing yourself with others

Introduction of this text

The streets are empty, the sun has already set. The moon guarantees a little light. But most people are asleep at this time anyway.
But somewhere the light burns in a room of a young person. This person is just about to work. "Home office" is what they call it.

From the outside, it even looks quite cozy:
A plant and a bottle of water on the desk next to the computer, two nice pictures on the wall with motivational sayings ("Dont give up - it wont be easy but it will be worth it" and "The pain you feel today will be the strenth you feel tomorror").
yes, this text is about my current situation; but I'm sure it's similar for you😊.

From the outside, everything seems peaceful. But if you take a look into the "inner life" of this person (thoughts, ideas, wishes), you realize that this person takes on too much. So much that the stress could blow his mind.

Do you feel addressed?

In this narcissistic world, we all feel compelled to perform better than others. A kind of pressure to perform arises subconsciously. Many people can't handle this pressure. They do not process it. This kind of pressure then creates this "competitive thinking".

What is competitive thinking??

Actually, competitive thinking is not evil. It even has its advantages:
Competition can spur, inspire ambition and create innovation. I believe that nowadays the greatest milestones have been achieved through this competition (thus also through competitive thinking). But like everything else in life, too much of something, like competition is dangerous!
It becomes dangerous when we see all the people around us as enemies. Then the attitude or behavior arises to see every person in one's own environment as a competitor. This happens unconsciously. I believe that partly each of us (yes, also me and also you! Even if we don't want to admit it...) thinks like this.
We think that there is not enough. So not enough water, not enough food or anything else. It's because we are in this pressure to perform. When we see others succeeding in life, envy arises. When envy and jealousy, i.e. competitive thinking, take control of us, unfair fights, quarrels or even sabotage quickly grow out of it.
Jealousy is a disgusting feeling that you can barely defend yourself against. Once the feeling is there, you lose control. At least that's how it feels.
Jealousy makes you wonder what's wrong with you. "Why am I not succeeding?" you ask yourself.
Do you want to hear the answer? You're not succeeding because you're comparing yourself to others.
And that is exactly the point! YOU SHOULD STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS.

To do that, you need to get your negative feelings (like jealousy, envy, etc.) under control. Personally, meditation helps me.
Admit to yourself that you are under this pressure. Accept that you don't feel perfect.If you can accept that you feel this way and that it is okay to feel this way, you can see these feelings as challenges. You can manage to become better. If so, you are evolving. This has the advantage that you can compare yourself with yourself again in the future.
When you have these negative feelings under your control, the competitive thinking disappears. You free yourself from the thought that all resources are rare. And when you have achieved this, your pressure to perform automatically disappears.

Should you not compare yourself completely with anyone?

No.
The only person you can compare yourself to is yourself.
Do you understand what I am getting at? When you compare yourself to others, you fall under pressure to perform. Your desire to make more out of your life remains only a desire. But if you want it to come true, the only person you can compare yourself to is... yourself. This has the advantage that you realize your progress.

Ask yourself the following question:

• Where were you three years ago?
• What kind of person were you three years ago?
• How "naive" were you five years ago?
• What were you doing 10 years ago?
• In what lifeareas have you developed?

When you have an answer to these questions, you will notice how far you have come in your life. You should compare yourself ONLY (!) with yourself. Not with others.
If humanity would stop comparing itself with other people and focus completely on itself, we would achieve more together.

Why we would achieve more?

Simple:

Once competitive thinking disappears, we no longer see others as our enemies. As a result, we perceive how valuable each person is. When this is the case, we work TOGETHER, not AGAINST each other.
Sadly, this will probably take some time for people to understand.

Who knows, maybe the people who live on Mars later on will think the same way like me. 😊