I find that throughout my writing or conversations that the concept of "illusions of security" often come up. I feel that throughout our lives many of us are more or less trained into the mindset of doing what we perceive as the safe choice or the sure thing. We work jobs we don't like for the money, insurance, or benefits. We can find ourselves stuck in unhappy or unhealthy situations because the alternative is unknown or risky. Perhaps that risk aversion is really just about our resistance to change, which seems to fundamentally go against the nature of our own existence.
We are all always changing throughout our lives. We can be set in our ways, sure, but we really don't have any control over whether or not how we feel about something or someone changes. I think that when we cling to these things or do things that we don't want to do for the sense of security that we're really just allowing all of that "change" energy to build up until it's essentially forced upon us as it can't be contained any longer. What we resist persists. If we resist change, we'll surely find more of it coming at us as there is no way to out plan our own lives.
On the other hand, if we simply embrace change and accept it as part of the whole experience of life, it can be refreshing and keep things interesting. It's rather funny to me as I used to resist change and try to live a secure and comfortable life, but it never made me happy. Accepting that those illusions of security were really about me trying to control life and that I really had no way to do that was the most freeing experience I've ever felt and I often encourage others to simply do what they want to do. In the end, I don't think there's really any alternative to doing what we want to do with our lives if we want them to be happy and worthwhile. I don't find living an unhappy life to be an option anymore. Namaste.