Reading someone's emotions in their eyes is something we can all do. In the end, the gaze is the part of the human being that says the most, that transmits many things and with which we connect more intensely. Understanding all these non-verbal tracks in the eyes of others will allow us to guess, for example, falsity, sincerity or even the magic of attraction.
Bécquer said that whoever can speak with his gaze can also kiss with the eyes. The magnetism of these fascinating bodies is such that sometimes we are not fully aware of all the secrets they contain. So, one thing that communication experts know very well is that even though many of our behaviors, acts and words can be filtered by social conditioning and by our will, a type of language that we can not always control expresses itself. through the eyes.
If someone attracts us, our pupils dilate. Our gaze widens when we are surprised, it goes in one direction when we try to remember something or get down when we are suspended to a state of introspection. The nuances that characterize the behavior of our eyes are so numerous and subtle that it is always interesting to know more about this theme. In this way, we can deepen the minds of others or read their emotions effectively.
How to read emotions in someone's eyes
Let's think about something for a moment. If there is one thing we spend a good deal of time on, it is communicating with others. We do it (almost) always face to face, looking for visual contact; however, we pay more attention to the spoken message, the words, the quality of the dialogue.
It should also be added that in recent years, with the advent of new technologies and instant messaging systems, the style of communication has changed. We do not need to have someone in front of us to tell him anything; now, we can transmit our joy, our love or our anger through an emoticon. All this is neither good nor bad: it is above all a different way of communicating, much faster.
However, with this system, we can no longer read the emotions of others in their eyes. We deprive ourselves of this pleasure, of this mystery which consists in revealing, with small gestures and magical nuances, the quality or the complexity of our relations. Let's see how we can achieve this reading, this analysis ...
The eyelid beat
When we talk about the language of the eyes, we are not just referring to the eyeball and the pupils. The great power of expression of our gaze is orchestrated above all by a complex mixture of nerves and muscles which intervene in the movement of the eyebrows, eyelids, temples, & c.
All this reflects the emotional activation of each moment. Eyelids also fulfill this function. For example, we know that when something surprises us, outrages us or makes us angry, we tend to blink a lot faster.
On the other hand, it is common to blink a lot when we interact with someone we like or when we think of many things at the same time.
It is possible that all this seems contradictory but we must know that this act, blinking more intensely than usual, is a mechanism that the brain starts when it feels more nervous. Therefore, if we want to read the emotions of others in their eyes, it is important to focus on the context or conversation that we are holding at that moment.
The language of the pupils
Our pupils dilate when we see something stimulating or when there is little light. If something or someone attracts us, it is common that the pupil is flooded like a full moon, immense and illuminated by this emotion, by this power of attraction. However, when we feel offended or when we see something that displeases or upsets us, our pupils dilate.
Visual synchrony
Reading the emotions of people we like is something we all want to be able to dominate. Now, sometimes, there is no need to be an expert in non-verbal language to perceive the harmony that we can establish, at a given moment, with a friend, the person who attracts us or even a relative.
Curiously enough, experts tell us that when two people "connect", a visual synchrony is established: in other words, visual gestures are reproduced and the same micro-expressions are put in place. ...
Looks in other directions: shy and liars
We have all experienced it, whether it is when we speak with a child or with someone unsure of themselves. Instead of maintaining direct eye contact, his gaze escapes in another direction, in those corners where he / she will not find our face, in those spaces where he / she can bypass us, where he / she will take refuge extreme timidity ...
It must also be pointed out that the lying personality also has evasive eyes. This is not as obvious as for a shy or socially anxious person and, therefore, we must be very attentive when reading his emotions and intentions.
To conclude, and as we can deduce, eyes, eyes, transmit a notable and very wide variety of social and emotional information that sometimes escape us and that we have trouble interpreting. Luckily, we have within our reach interesting studies and works like The effects of the gaze on the perception of the emotion of the psychologist Reginald B. Adams or Morphology and psychology of the human eye of Hisashi Kobayashi, which will allow us to to learn a little more about this subject.
