This is my specialty, helping people find cameras. :)
You DEFINITELY don't need to spend $3,000 unless you're wanting to get her the most expensive, most feature-packed option there is. I shoot weddings and I don't even have a camera that expensive. lol
So let's take a look. The below options can do full manual, full automatic, and everything in between:
Canon:
This is the brand I shoot, but I'm pro-Nikon as well. Canon is just the first one I put in my hand, and that's what I was sold on. Had I been given a Nikon to try out first, I probably would've chosen that. Ultimately, it's Chevy Vs. Ford here, so whichever one you pick is going to give you basically the same results as the other. Here's a Canon T5 kit with a camera body, 2 lenses, and a camera bag for $499. That's going to come with everything she'll need for a while. The point here is to get her started, and let her find the ceiling. She'll know when she's found the limitations to her setup and is ready to trade up. ;-)
Nikon:
Here's a similar setup in a Nikon for $546, so it's comparable. The lenses that come with it are similar, but the larger lens at 200mm in this kit doesn't do as much telephoto as the Canon kit at 300mm.
I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any questions. :)
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