Love is like a spark of light that needs efforts to continue sparking else it quenches totally uninformed.
Truly, love is important in any romantic relationship or marriage but when low effort is been invested into it then there's a likelihood of the situation turning around to bring questions like "are you really sure these ones loved each other before?"
When it's still a relationship, love can be the main energy but as soon as it turns to marriage, then love alone can't be the only investment to make the marriage work because it's no longer a situation of going and coming from your spouse's place but now it's a permanent 24/7 seeing face to face, knowing his/her secret errors and bad habits. Now you get to see yourselves in and out with no hideouts.
There's a friend of mine, during her friendship and courtship period with her husband, they were so in love and it was all going fine. We were all happy for her that she's finally out of the team of waiting to leave the singlehood congregation.
Months after their wedding, her husband started acting off, he was not like he used to be, he no longer cares that much about her and all these shattered my friend. Even though he fulfil his responsibilities financially but when it comes to marriage or getting affection and attention from one's husband as a woman who truly loved her man, then we would understand that the money wouldn't be her issue in this kind of a situation.
She had complained and complained turning to a nagging wife but still the same outcome and she couldn't speak out since their marriage was still fresh and it was really breaking her already and causing them to feel distanced from each other but she had no other option than to talk about it when she could no longer hold it in.
There's one basic and main thing I do advice people to have in any kind of relationship they found themselves in, either friendship, romantic relationship or marriageship is that communication is the key and very important. Once you lose the key of communication in whatever union or ship you're into, then there's a low probability of success in it.
I brought up this conversation with her and make her see how and when she can actually try it out and not giving up if the first trial didn't work, but as long as it is sure that the husband loves her then it's gonna work out eventually.
A few days after, she called back with a better chuckle sound on the phone, smiling like a new wedded bride, giving me a great feedback of the heart pouring conversation she and her hubby had. She realized some mistakes committed by her and also cleared the rest that were misunderstood by her husband and they both apologized to each other and allowed the sleeping dog lie in peace.
Now! Let's imagine if that communication did not happen, what would have been the fate of their union and love story? It might have led to them tearing apart like they never loved themselves, just few months after getting married and they might end up regretting their decisions.
So many elaborate weddings you would see happen and after 2,3,4 months they're divorced. Do we wanna say that they all deceived themselves while counting and there was no true love or intentions? No! But as long as we fail to build communication and understanding on the foundation of love we have already, then we ain't building anything.
Let's always learn to communicate and not assume, ask questions from our partners or spouses even when we think we know the answer. Also, transparency is always better with one's spouse. Don't turn yourself to a hidden treasure in Gulder ultimate search.
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