2025: Thursday thoughts

On the process of letting go

How can we tell if we are truly free from the burdens in our heart? The invincible ropes that circled tight on the body be finally free. I believe it differs from every person and the way how we define the weight of the hurts that we carry. Even our own mistakes that hunts us. How can we be free from that seal of deep isolation of darkness of unforgiving heart?

My self-journey and experiences may not be as dramatic as the others or from yours but, I believe no one is exempted. It may self-inflicted one or by the persons we encounter in life’s journey. Have you remembered when still a kid, we couldn’t get what we wanted. We cried until those frustrations fade away. We can always look how kids are. I wish we could have that heart that like a kid, few distractions and options can lure as away from not wanting those things we are not supposed to have.

Now being an adult, we can always look back to how we end up right where we are. Those trials and brokenness define of who we become. Holding on to the grudges on our endless whys has captured us like a water that has been put in an ice cube tray from the faucet to the fridge. The liquid that we were, hardened and cold. Being broken from bad relationships and bad self-treatment or even being broke from physical disabilities or perhaps sickness, and worst from crimes. What a world we live in. There is always suffering, enduring, accepting and then forgiving.

We can say we forgive when there is enough time to heal. A gradual process and a journey itself and always a self-accessing if whether or not you will let it harden you even more. There could be times that the darkness was becoming our comfort zone and there is danger hidden in that cube for too long. Hope is the light that burns, let it melts. Remember to take it easy.

Focus on forgiving yourself. First step in forgiving others. Unforgiving is a door to many negative forces. It can affect the way we live every single day. We could not achieve the joy that we always long for. We could not celebrate with the world when its time for a celebration. We will be numb with the sorrowful days too. There could be imbalance to the way we act. Therefore, take a deep breath and let go. Acknowledge how it feels but do not replay the past. Picture the ice cube, put it in a glass of water. Let it melts away. Say goodbye to it being solid. It is no longer hard and its freeing you from being captured. If you truly accept that pain it doesn’t mean it disappears. Recognizing the reality that what is done cannot be undone.

Reclaim back your given life. Your gift of life is bigger than that of what and who broke your heart. Surrender it all to God. He is the great consoler. Be at peace and trust His mercy and of being just.

_{Asean Hiver. Hive Ph. Islander Journal.Ladiesofhive. Loves Reading and sharing thoughts and experiences.}