"Trust me"! These are the single words to pronounce ,but it takes a lot of effort to gain the real significance of these words. None of the healthy relationships are flimsy until and unless this pillar of trust is plausible. Who to trust and who should be eliminated from this race, this is a problematic question.
Tiny trusty circle;
In the onset when we have only limited things in our life we share everything publically with our best friends. We might have only occasional best friends who know the reason behind all our actions. In school life , this transpires when you insist on spending most of the time with that one best friend who, according to you, is suitable for your personality. We perform this goal as we commence to comprehend that there are few people from outside the world who can understand us better than our parents. The reason for absence, not completing the homework,gossip and fun stories are amazing and they are the secrets between you and your best friend.
Onset of maturity;
In the latter life when you attain physical and mentally maturity, one might hesitate to publically share his her life traumas. But still the vacancy of best friend is filled here. Not with everyone but with that special person you are fully comfortable. No matter how extended this relationship stays but still you are always in thought that might be cracking this bonding would leave in uproar of sea. So either you have to remain loyal to you or the other option is to do sucide with your secrets.
Practical life and trust issues ;
Afterwards the student life, real life trust issues transpire. You are not always trained for all these circumstances. For you, finding loyalty would be a hard task to achieve. As the world runs before success, not viewing their attitude would affect others. For them only gossip and for you it's the struggle of a whole life who was ruined only by the mistake of sharing the life secret with snake nature people. People might come close to you only for knowing the insights of your life. Or you may consider them as friends and share the miseries in the form of secrets. And one day you would be surprised to know that your secret is now gossip in all the working places.
Social insecurity in Asia ;
I acknowledge that these days people are more confident to tell their life trauma confidently but this happens in west commonly. In Asia, still sharing the news of a love marriage makes you controversial. And before that you can't openly tell your parents that yes you are in love why it's the game of fear.
Age becomes a headache while making a decision,
your society wouldn't accept your strength in decision making by saying you are too young to think can't and think wisely about your life. Girls can't let their parents know about their choice as they are trusted for study or work purposes only so
if the love happens between them sorry your choice wouldn't be ratified.
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Coming back to the earlier point of social insecurities, you are free to do anything but keep in mind that whose eyes are watching you. Recently I faced an issue regarding these trust topics. I am not in favor of sharing my photos, videos, or social status either.
Why do I have trust issues?
Yes I might have but before that I always thought that why someone would need to have a check on me. I am person in front of them so why do I need to share my private information or happening snaps??? I am not afraid to show my face ( as most of the people think about Islamic girls) but still there is a question that the name and writings of the author are enough as an introduction. No one else deserves to know whether I am single or engaged. Might be after sometimes I would change my mind but right now what matters is my vision and thoughts instead of looks. I am writing all this as I was called conservative and I didn't answer back as I know the advancement of cyber too. So yes I am what you think but bro you don't merit to get into my trust worthy cycle.
Lastly, there is a reminder for everyone who faces these issues anytime in life, rise with confidence. Your social life doesn't need their like button, you are already liked by your life. Do whatever you are performing in private life, have silence and let your success roar in a louder voice.
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