The power to help and to reject whom to help lies in our hands. We are the chief managers of our pocket and the way we render help to people. Everyone wants to collect, but now everyone who collects wants to help in return. We have different people with different characters since we have different natures.
The world is turning into something no one would understand. It has limited most people from giving what they were supposed to give at some point. The world is now tagged as a wicked world where everyone needs to be careful. I must not give to anyone, especially those I see on the road, just because of the rules I had set aside for myself coupled with what I have seen people go through via helping people in the street. Everyone wants to get rich by using the glory of most people who have rendered help to them.
I have heard, and I saw it happen where a man had to render help to someone so close to him. It was not even some outsider, but someone close to him. The help he had done turned him into a bigger person. A company owner turned out to be begging for money. This was just because he had given it to the wrong person. The one he had given to had to make him poor. He went to a program in the church where he was told about the originator of his predicament. He was asked to go back and give this same person the amount he had given to him at that time. Likewise, he did as instructed and bounced back to who he was while the other fellow was wondering if something had gone wrong somewhere.
After that moment, he vowed not to render help to people.
Someone who does not want to help people must have gone through some tough times.
I have a friend who has money. One fateful day, I was financially down, and my wife and daughter had nothing to eat. I had to run to him to borrow some money. He said, “I will give you later when that fellow who was owing me brings my money this evening.” I told him about the hunger we were facing at that moment, but he insisted I waited. I had to go back home and inform my wife what my friend had said. When it was evening, I called him, and he categorically told me that he can never borrow money from anyone close to him. Hearing this statement kept me in a state of surprise. Ever since that moment, I stopped myself from collecting things and even money from him.
The thing is that, even though I was angry, it was a boundary he had set for himself, which he must strictly follow. He must have been hurt to not give me, but then he may not also jump over the boundary he had set.
I was walking along the street one day when a beggar crossed my path and asked for money. I had set a boundary not to give out my money to a beggar after the great experience I had witnessed happened. This beggar had his two hands and legs normal and yet decided to beg. I began to wonder whether he was using this medium to take out people's glory.
There was one that I came across one day who I guess was suffering, yet I refused to render help to him just because of the set boundary I had for myself. It can always happen that way.
We all set boundaries to keep ourselves from one problem or the other. We set boundaries just to relieve ourselves from some unwanted happening that may make us go down the drain. He needed money or help, which does not mean I should jump over my already-set boundaries.
We may find people running to us for help, but somehow they reject that help even when we have the resources; it is just because of the boundary we had set.