Anger is an expression or feeling of an unpleasant situation. Anger could be seen as an expression of dissatisfaction or feelings of irritation over an event or a thing. Anger can be positive, meaning it could be as a result of trying to correct a negative statement. Anger when positively harnessed would lead to good results. Not all anger is positive, or not all anger is negative. For instance, if you have a child that doesn't adhere to instructions or disobeys you as a parent, you would express anger in an attempt to correct such a child. Caution should be taken because it could lead to death if not properly managed.
Every human being has the potential to manifest anger, but the big question is: what do we do when we are angry? In this edition of the post, I would share how we can manage anger and possibly share some life experiences. Man by default has been created with the capacity to absorb and react to emotional things. Many people are confronted with the challenge of managing anger. When we don't manage anger, its consequences might lead to death. Many have died already due to an inability to deal with anger. When one is angry, the whole cells of the body are affected and become pressured, which could easily make an individual misbehave and react wrongly. I am quite sure there are several materials written about anger and how it should be managed; however, I would like to share my perspective and the practical steps I took to curb that. Some of these steps are:
Understand your temperament. This is a fundamental point as far as I am concerned. If you don't understand yourself, you won't be able to deploy the right strategy to deal with your anger. How do you react to issues in life? What type of temperament do you have? You don't need to compete with others; rather, behave as it ought to be based on your type of temperament. There are people, no matter how you try to get them angry; they don't easily get angry. They behave as if it doesn't bother them, while there are other categories of people that flare up to anger easily, no matter how little the matter is. As for me, I have understood myself; hence, I take out time but get over anger easily. Have you known your temperament?* Take out time for relaxation. Do you have in your schedule time that you normally relax and chill out? You can't be working all day. It's very important to spare out time to relax yourself and for some worn-out tissue to reform. This would help you let go of anger easily. As part of relaxation, you could go on exercise... jugging and other forms of exercise can be used. This will really help manage anger.
Read books. This is a challenging factor in most African settings. They hardly read, and some people with poor reading culture fall victim to circumstances and become confused on how to handle things. It's said that nothing is new under the surface of the earth. What you are passing through might be something that someone has overcome. When you read about others weaknesses, especially in anger, and how they overcame them, it would help you strategize your own as well.
Have a mentor. The place of mentoring can't be overemphasized. This is a common method by most coupes. I have been married for a couple of years now, and my mentor has been pivotal in my marital journey since when we were in courtship. It's said problem share is half solved. What you don't share might end up killing you. Try and find someone you could confide in to share your challenges, especially when you are angry. This would go a long way to dealing with anger.Thanks for reading through my entry for hive-reachout inleoinitiative. All comments are appreciated.