As someone who tied the knot at 25, and is celebrating 15 years of marriage this year with my wife Joyce, I've had loads of time to ponder the positives and negatives of marrying young. While taking that leap early on isn't for everyone, I've personally savored the many perks during our 15-year marital journey so far. Cultural expectations demanded that we wait, but disregarding the skeptics proved wise. Our marriage has brought us incredible joy, partnership, and success over these years.
Here, I'll share 5 stellar benefits of marrying young - straight from my marital experiences these past 15 fulfilling years.
Key Takeaways
Marrying your best friend early allows decades to deepen your emotional and physical intimacy. It provides stability to achieve shared goals like careers, education and family.
With youthful energy and fertility, your 20s are prime for starting or growing your family in healthy and fulfilling ways.
Finding a lifelong companion takes time. Committing to each other early maximizes the chances of building a strong foundation for many years of friendship, support and happiness to come.
1. Marrying as Virgins
Joyce and I met in our first year in the university and connected instantly. Neither of us had any previous relationship or sexual partners before our marriage two years later. Inexperience enabled us to build trust, develop intimacy without baggage from past relationships. This helped us to create a strong foundation of loyalty and commitment between us. This foundation becomes the building block upon which our family dreams were built.
2. Assurance of More and Better Sex
For couples, intimacy is considered private, yet studies indicate married individuals generally experience more fulfilling physical relationships compared to singles or those cohabiting. Married couples tend to engage in more satisfying sexual activities than unmarried counterparts. Marrying young guarantees you many prime sexual years ahead to explore intimacy together without pressure or tension.
Joyce and I were each other's firsts, so we've enjoyed discovering what we each like freely without comparisons to past relationships. Over 15 years, we've developed a deep understanding and connection with one another. Our sex life today is even better than when we were newlyweds!
Of course, communication is key. But marrying your best friend provides a safe space to be vulnerable without fear of judgment. It allows your physical and emotional intimacy to evolve naturally over a lifetime.
3. The Best Time to Have Children
The optimal period for having offspring is an essential consideration. As a parent of two teenage sons, I can attest that becoming a father during my 20s has proven highly rewarding, both physically and emotionally. Joyce and I possessed greater energy reserves to meet their needs during early childhood stages. Even now, as our sons mature, we retain youthful vitality to partake in active pursuits together.
From a health perspective, female fertility peaks between ages 20-30. The risks associated with pregnancy complications are significantly lower during this timeframe. Financially, we had more flexibility early on when expenses like diapers and childcare were highest.
Now our sons are old enough to help out around the house and assist their younger siblings. They provide their parents with joy, purpose and a supportive community all these years. I wouldn't change a thing and am thankful we started our family early.
4. A Lifelong Companion
After 15 years of marriage, Joyce remains my very best friend. We've supported each other through challenges like finishing our studies while raising kids. We've also celebrated countless milestones together.
I truly believe marrying young increases your chances of finding a lifelong companion. Someone with common goals and dreams for your family is important. Committing to each other early allows building a strong foundation of trust, communication, and teamwork through years.
As you get older, it becomes easier to overlook each other's good traits or forget what first drew you together. Marrying young helps avoid this by keeping romance and friendship as top priorities.
Conclusion
Getting married at a young age needs maturity and responsibility. It involves carefully finding the right person. However, for those able to find their ideal spouse, the advantages of a fulfilling, lasting marriage surpass challenges. Joyce and I feel fortunate to mark fifteen years together this year.
We feel such thanks for our journey thus far. In only fourteen days, we commemorate fifteen years as soulmates and partners in crime. I look forward to creating more wonderful memories in the decades to come.