Firstly, I will start this writeup by saying, a promise is a vow, a covenant we make to a particular individual and it must be fulfilled unless, we won't be taken seriously again if we try to make another promise.
An empty promise is nothing. And this is why there is always this heavy, big pressure and disappointment that comes after a promise made has been broken, not just from the person who made the promise but almost from the person that it was made to.
And scripturally and morally, it is not acceptable to made a promise you cannot fulfil, because some takes promise as a covenant you made to them and you must fulfil it. However, it is better to say nothing than to make an empty promise maybe when you are over happy.
Making a promise to an individual are not seen just as mere words, because to those people who received the promise, be it hearts or cultures, they are covenant inscribed on their emotions, time and trust which is why they sees it as sacred thing.
I could remember making a promise to one of my closet pals, telling him that I will always be by his side no matter what. But as we have we, we grew and life came at us in a stormy way, things somehow fell apart and the distance was there. When he needed me sometimes, I failed to show up, not that I wanted to, but situations I was in. That lingered in my heart for long, but maybe my absence was a bit justifiable but to him, both morally and emotionally, I did not fulfil my promise.
And sometimes, there might not be enough explanation that can justify the promise we made to someone or the promises made to us that was broken because, either we like it or not, it is not all the promises made to us that will be fulfilled and we have to live with that. There was a point we once promised the love of our life that we will grow old together, but see us in another relationship. Life tested our love, distance came in-between and the promises made us shattered.
Can we really justify a promise that was broken? Yes, life can be messy. Situations change and this includes people. But promise should always remain a promise and we should not put a barrier for it to grow.
Our broken promises should not be toxic, make us a liar and harmful. And just like I said earlier, promises should not be made when we are over happy, it should be made with a pure mind and with the intention of fulfilling it. Whether it is a friendship, loyalty or love promise, it should be kept because a promise not fulfilled can break hearts.
Thank for reading.
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