Rendering help to people in most cases can be so demanding especially for people like us who are so emotional and want to give a hand of help to every dick and Harry we meet on the road most of all those who coke to share their stories with us.
Personally I do try to put myself in their own shoes, at one point I feel the pain they go through and at another instance the shoe seeks to cut my legs. There where times I was seriously hurt at heart because of the desire to help. Most times I am one person who don't mind helping people from a close range, that's to say I get them into my home and do the helping from there. They get to know my in and out and more. I remember one particular family that my husband and I had to pour out mind to them and we thought it will help them grow since we have already experienced what they are passing through just for them to just go out and change the matter which made us look as if we are bad. I am a mission and ministry driven fellow so I take everything to be in that line.
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As things happen on a daily basis we get to be more matured at heart why we learn better approach to things.
Knowing when to withdraw from anything we do I one sign of maturity although a times our emotions tend to have an upper hand but bringing in self control will help us win the battle at that time. When am taken for granted or someone exhibit high level of despiracy, I do withdraw sharply.
Being taken for granted is one thing in most cases I won't take from anyone no matter the connection between us. Many people have this mind of placing value on things based on who is relating the message to them. There is this particular guy I came across with through my husband, after our few contact I told my husband the kind of person he was. My husband is one person who will not one to conclude someone based on face actions. As time went by it showed up that is one person that value people base on class. As a new family, he placed his value so high that even when we tried giving so advice he didn't listen, infact he ended up counseling us. Days, months and years rolled by and they are now the shadow of themselves. The last time we met we for the first time had a deep conversation and he said he will work on what we told him.
When a man allows life to put him in a tight position when he would have learnt from those that went ahead it becomes more frustrating.
Another time I do my best to put a stop is when I sense this high level of despiracy. In as much as I want to bring people up I don't allow anyone to put me under unnecessary pressure. Imagine that I showed you the way to write and make some money from hive you decided to abandon it just because you discovered mining platforms which I was the one that showed them to you and you felt it was not the best instead of the one who to an extent you are sure something will come out from no matter what. This particular person pushed me to the point that I stopped responding to her messages or I will even tell her I don't know about what she is talking about. I love help people but don't frustrate my efforts because everyone have one challenge or the other facing him
Setting boundaries is very important in life or else one will end up harming himself while those that hurts him will just look for another maybe one they value more than you.
This is my response to hivenaija weekly prompt. Thank you for stopping by my blog today