It seems like a lie but many times those who stall your progress, your success the most are loved ones, people with fear of life who try to stop others from living by their own fear and even less that they are stones on the road.
It is by no means easy to do it, everything that touches our affections is complicated at the time of setting limits, and even so, many times there is no other way, if it does not add up it is better to go far away, it is to set limits and not feel guilty about it.
Furthermore, it makes a lot of sense to me this connection between triumph and sending the fuck to those who stand in my way...right?
The important thing is that they don't get in the way of my goals.
I usually tell them, look so-and-so, come here, I've decided to go there, either you support me or don't get in the way, because I'm still going there! He opposes, or I send him to the end of the world.
I recently lived an experience with a close cousin, it was very hard to tell him that he will get out of my way, I suffered but like the phoenix I got up and achieved my goals in the professional field with the plus of meeting new people. And after this there was no turning back.
Do you want to dominate your world? Then the fear of what they will say cannot be in your personality.
Being yourself is always going to lead you to experience rejection, even from your dearest ones. As long as you see the one who rejects you, and put walls, curves and stones in your way with passive contemplation just tell them “I accept your rejection, now go away, far”, you will dominate them forever. In addition, everything will cease to be a source of suffering and insomnia for you.
And it is precisely the strength of our character and the strength of our personality that drive us to tell these people, fuck you. Even if they are people you love, and even, you would always like them to accompany you in life.
That strength, that passion and that life process is what makes people succeed.
Having the necessary strength to send to the devil all those people who stand in your way, even if they are people you love, has precisely been the necessary strength of those who have succeeded in life.
If you want to succeed, you must have that strength.
Be careful, it's not that you don't care what other people think about you, it's that what they think about you doesn't dominate you...be strong, and, bathe with Vaseline so that everything you don't care, it doesn't affect you.
Conclusion?...
The day you can live with rejection and adverse opinions about yourself, without feeling that your world is ending, that day you will have conquered your personal universe.
Sometimes they seem like a very heavy anchor that does not let you move forward.
The best thing is to put limits on anyone. I'm doing cleaning and I have zero doubts to do that.
It is necessary to arm oneself with courage to continue with the plan of growth, development. Right there is a clear sign that you have found the emotional maturity to be yourself!
Firstly, he always advocated for my mental health. And to the one who crosses himself with his bad faith or his fears, goodbye. It's like a boxing hook to the liver. And it has worked for me. How do you see it? Have you had to put distance with people like that? I read you in comments.
Janitze
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
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