Than the quantity...
They will be fewer friends on my fingers when I count them haha, I have extra fingers on both hands, but I prefer it that way.
There are people who seek to justify their bad actions because they do not like to have anything claimed from them, because a single defect and they run away and then come back justifying the unjustifiable, there are things that are not tolerated, it is not being complicated or toxic to say what we do not like, relationships should add up, give happiness, not torments and problems!
However, it is also the case that the claims are extremely exaggerated and even hysterical. I am always ready to accept a complaint, but from there to the shouting and the total lack of control, NO!!! And never, I do not accept that pod in my life, to fuck others, but not me.
I am not a woman of screams and much less of scandal, I talk about claims of what I do not like, of what cannot be accepted, an example: when they do not pay attention to me for constantly being on the cell phone, you never prioritize, you disappear without excuses, disrespect, in short, no one should keep quiet what makes him uncomfortable, because it would be to accept machismo and submissive women.
We must be aware of what we deserve, but more importantly of what we don't deserve, that's what self-esteem is about, not allowing anyone to harm your peace and that's valid for everyone, especially with the couple.
Beware! There are people you have to be very careful with.
It is better to be forewarned!...Stay the hell away from this people.
Do not get together with someone who is going to harm you for having the temperament given to violence, or does not care about your well-being.
If, they suffer from moms or dads Oedipus, from pod, what's up. Stay away, have self-love!
Oh, and even less, don't even think about joining narcissistic, selfish people, far away from those people. I am always well aware of the signs that for me are red flag alerts, which I do not leave as much as possible going under the table and that they indicate to me that this person does not suit me...including the family.
This type of individual will never recognize his/her mistakes, it's a sign of a red flag. When you talk about how you feel, about your emotions they don't pay attention to you, they start talking about themselves the typical narcissist, watch out for this person, he doesn't care about you at all.
They don't care about anything you do or don't do, say or don't say you are a zero to the left, it's because they don't spare no effort in making you feel good, you are indifferent to them.
Tell me about the individual who has that excessive attachment to parental figures, who constantly tell you, we will do it as my mom or dad told me or what they were somehow taught in the family, oops not, this in my life, far away from me. I don’t accept it.
Run away from these people, run far away.
Those who treat children and animals badly, or those who like to fight in traffic, shout or insult is a person with a propensity to guilt and tell me those who do not feel empathy for people who suffer is an individual indifferent to emotions.
Many times we think that we are surrounded by good friends, or we are getting into a good relationship, and along the way we discover that we are not. Sometimes we sin knowingly, in all cases happiness begins with oneself and is our responsibility. It is also true that we give everything, to some "friends"and they leave us with stones on the way.
I always say that love and friendship are the least intelligent thing we humans have, but it's still worth living the experience.
And at this point of happiness, friendship, the relationship with the partner, I am convinced that when we understand that we are totally incapable of making the other feel happiness, or that the other is incapable of feeling satisfied, the time has come to say "this is over" and it is the best time to evaluate that relationship with the few friends you have and even with the partner.
My self-esteem is my GPS for every relationship. Have you ever been related to someone like that? Tell me about it in the comments.
Janitze…
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Translation with |DeepL