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Even if they call us conflictive people, or that we are defensive, we are not for mistreatment, neither is anything half-hearted, I don't know, I say, there is no turning back when there is self-love!
A while ago, they asked me if I was sick, I was wearing a dress that was a little big on me, I replied, “No, I'm skinny” after a while I remembered it and it bothered me. It was in front of MANY people and ALL looking at me. Then they asked me, "Are you going to the gym?"I thought, "Give me patience God, because I can't," with these toxic people.
Really, at this point in life it is unacceptable to refer to others with labels: old, fat, ugly... and so on.
Something happened to me just today, for this reason I'm writing this post, and I laughed a lot about it, I have my age and I accept it, I don't hide it. And they thought to offend me by calling me old hahaha 😂 when old age is mental, ... What I am very sure of is how old I am and who I am. That's a blessing.
I have a healthy self-esteem and that makes it clearer to me when they push the boundaries. And you give the stop on time, you get away from those who want to beat and mistreat our life. And I dare say, those who fuck others, don't have self-esteem either.
A happy and balanced person, from the emotional point of view, is hardly going to have plans to "fuck up the life of others".
In my work, for example, not getting screwed is synonymous with "problematic person"...! Well, I'll be troublesome then, but I don't let myself be fucked by others. In many environments, it is annoying people who know how to set boundaries. It happens in toxic jobs, where all the time they try to trip you up so that things don't go well for you.
And is that when I set my limits, the abusers get upset with me. That's when I take out the deck of sending the fuck to the nosy people. Such sarcastic, humiliating and abusive comments are unacceptable.
I walk with a sharp back and tight armor always before the "social gears", because nowadays, I have this great ability to shake myself to the gray clouds by trade. I don't let anyone steal my joy, my confidence, or my self-love.
I accept and assume every defect that I have with courage and responsibility, self-esteem is the basis of my mental health, and that of everyone, it is a two-way road, it is like a highway that always has a return.
Although it may not seem romantic...
Self-esteem is a decision, it is intentional, it is those small daily actions that I take almost without realizing it to show my self-love, starting with me is my commitment!
Today I give myself space, I set limits, space to feel, recover, reflect, create, love myself to be. I believe that mental health, resilience and self-esteem should be promoted at school since we are children.
Janitze.
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL