Today I just want to listen to understand, and not to respond, just to reflect, to understand.
It's okay to say "I don't know, everything."Accepting uncertainty does not weaken you... it makes you human.
Growing up is also about moving through spaces where you are still learning.
Allow yourself to not have all the answers and trust your process. I know it's hard to accept. No one wants to "lose”, and that's why we stay waiting for a change, a sign, something that justifies continuing.
But there are decisions that, although they hurt, are an act of self-love.Cutting for good is not giving up, it's choosing you when there are no longer clear signs that things are going to change.
There are those who seem to help you and only entangle your life...it's happened to me.
The truth is not everyone who comes to help you really does, even if they intend to do so, they may not succeed.
There are people who live by intrigue and by being a kind of ”mediators", who basically do not contribute to solving anything because without conflict they do not locate a place for themselves. I never recommend delegating our responsibility to solve what happens to someone else... take a look and you'll see.
Sometimes I see too many people living false lives, lying about themselves, trying to look like something they are not; and in the end, although they can deceive many people, they can never deceive themselves. They are still so empty and anxious, they never manage to be happy.
It's not about not lying, because that's impossible; we all lie. It is about at least assuming that you are a liar, and that is already a step forward, since you may be able to look at your shadows.
The double standard exists: that is to say lies, to believe that you are sincere and, even worse, to judge others as liars. There you are no longer yourself, but rather a cheap copy of what you want to be but are not.
Sometimes they applaud you on the outside, while you're breaking down on the inside.Look, many times in the midst of our best moments, pain arises, puts us on our knees and opens our eyes. I learned it firsthand: right there, when everything hurts, our truth begins and, somehow, signals to us that we are not being congruent.
If you feel that what you show does not look like what you feel, talk about it.
It is very important to learn to see why things constantly happen to us in life, and we must see the background of that. It is to start rebuilding yourself from the real.
Something that maybe happened to us, that marked us and that we didn't heal. Analyzing it, forgiving from the heart in order to move forward without that obstacle that prevents us from continuing without resentment, or stumbling, adds to our life purpose.
Make it better and different! To advance and be happy is to win, even if it is losing. Seeking help is not giving up ☀️
Janitze 🔆
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL