Making comparisons is a type of check that frequently brings us back to our present reality. However, we often demonize it because it can lead to greed, ungratefulness, malice, and discontent. However, we frequently forget that, in its most basic form, it is a human phenomenon that helps us stay on track and adrift. It is difficult to practice the art of comparison without being drawn into its negative vacuum.
There comes a point where we start to lose ourselves, which is why we have decided that it is better not to indulge in it than to lose ourselves to it.
We live in a world where it is very easy to make baseless comparisons; people no longer want to live their original lives because they may feel cheap, subpar, or below expectations; therefore, with the tool at their disposal, they will choose to create a different impression, a much better impression that is diabolically sound.
This means that we can no longer foster a healthy environment in which we can use the lives of those we know to demonstrate the kind of progress we should make. Because they appear to be raising their levels higher than they are, it may lead to feelings of discontent, anger, and frustration, making comparison toxic to one's mental health.
Some people create a perfect persona; we see them as glorified investors with never-failing investments, a perfect marriage, good children, no drama, a beautiful family, and a lot of money. This perfect front makes people yearn for the kind of life they have. We start asking for the recipe to such a perfect marriage and such a successful business empire, and when we do not get it, we feel unfortunate, cursed, and even angry.
We lose appreciation for the things we already have because we believe they could be better, but they aren't.
A perfect life on screen should create a smoke screen and the possibility of deception, but it does not; instead, it creates an ideal opportunity to sell. When we see couples with perfect lives on social media, it is easy for them to create products that have made their marriage successful, which people will buy. In fact, they can write books and persuade people to buy, and they will.
Why?
They are already selling the image of a perfect marriage, and you want their secret or recipe for making what you have work.
We want simple solutions to big problems in our lives because no one wants to spend time solving problems, especially if there is a place that sells a quick fix or a shortcut to big problems. We are often taken by what we see, which makes comparison a rabbit hole that sinks and sucks you deeper.
People no longer want to show their weak sides because they consider them vulnerable.
We live in a world where validation is more important than anything. We want others to see a smiling, happy, fulfilled, accomplished, beautiful, and successful version of ourselves because we believe that being sad, sick, depressed, or in pain is weak and repulsive.
Nobody wants to be perceived as a crybaby, so we raised the bar so high. We would rather cry in our closets than shed a tear in public because we can not afford to be perceived as failures, incapable of succeeding, finding work, staying healthy, becoming wealthy, or raising a comfortable family. When people are failing in some aspects of their lives, they would rather hide it than admit it and seek help.
The front we frequently present is that we have raised life's standards so high that we now see failure as something we should not be associated with, so we prefer to fail peacefully while deceiving others into believing we are the epitome of success.
Acceptance is something we dislike doing; it is difficult to accept certain realities, and we end up living in denial while mocking others who are in similar situations. Some people find comfort in making others think less of themselves. We have the mindset that we must always be better than others in order to avoid being at the bottom of the pile. However, we all require humility and a more profound understanding of life.
I have realized that we can always be hurt by conditions, circumstances, and life.
There is nothing wrong with expressing discontent, pain, and dissatisfaction. When life gives you a reason to be weak, go through it without thinking that someone else will do better than you when they are in your position. There is nothing wrong with being weak. Life happens to us at different times, and no one can tell us how much pain we should feel because no one is as strong as they appear.
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