Some times, we fail to understand that we are all unique and our time to achieving anything in this life is not the same as others. Just like our fingers are not equal, so is our purpose on earth. We are all different and we will all arrive to our destinations at a different time.
Two weeks ago I heard a news over a radio how a brother killed his sibling because his brother got a scholarship to study abroad. He was jealous and thought he deserved it better that his younger brother. When I heard the news, I was perplexed at the audacity to even murder your own blood out of jealousy. What people do these days is so alarming and disgraceful.
When you start comparing yourself to another, you give your mind the space to think of doing things that ordinarily shouldn't be heard of. The reason why people put themselves into trouble is majorly because they think they should have this or that at that point in time. Sometimes, I just log off and shut myself out of social media because I don't want to see things that will provoke me and make me start feeling bad for myself at all. Everyone is rich on social media and if you don't guide your heart and mind properly, you may end up in danger just because you want to keep up with what you are seeing.
Comparison can destroy you for life if you don't take your time. The Holy book says that "There is time for everything". That you are not where you think you should be at this point of your life doesn't mean that you won't be there. If you learn to take things easy and move at your own pace, then you will get there. Comparison breeds jealousy and jealousy breeds hatred. Imagine hating on someone for just because they are more successful than you when you should even be happy for the person and pray to God to bless you. Is that not witchcraft? Yes it is.
Comparing yourself with another when you don't even know what the person may have gone through to get to that stage, is nothing but absolute stupidity. I was once in this situation. I saw an old classmate who married a wealthy man. Every time, she was always posting her outings with her man and they were always travelling from one country to another. Then I wasn't married and I envied her during that period. I wanted to have that kind of life so badly. I got the shocker when one day she posted that they had broken up. In my mind I was wondering if she was okay. Like how can you break up with someone who pampered you and took you around the world. Little did I know that those things were just to show off meanwhile she was suffering in her marriage. That apart, he was abusing her every now and then. The one that broke the camel's back was when she discovered that the man had HIV and was hiding it from her all these years of marriage. They were married for three years.
You see sometimes, we tend to want to be forward in life forgetting that life is like a staircase that we need to climb one step at a time. When you want something that someone has, you are unconsciously telling yourself that that person is better than you thereby making yourself to feel bad just for nothing.
I have learnt that my peace of mind is very important to me. As such, whatever that will ruin it, I rather cut if off completely. Never ever compare yourself with anyone because you don't know what that person did to get to that place that you are envying. Move at your own space.
slow and steady wins the race always.
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