First of all, my sincere love and best wishes all my friends. How are you all? I hope you are keeping yourself in good shape even amidst the small daily struggles of life. Today I want to talk to you about a very important topic – changing yourself. Although it may sound simple, in reality it is a very big struggle.
When we think of making a change in life, it does not always come from our own will. Many times, family, society, circumstances, or some invisible pressure pushes us in that direction. But the question is, do you really want it? Or are you changing yourself just to fulfill someone's expectations?
When we do something out of compulsion rather than from our own mind, there is no mind, let alone joy. And such a change can very quickly take away our peace of mind. Our parents always want the best for us, it is true. They want to warn us about many things because they know the reality of life. But if we change ourselves against our will without understanding everything, it can cause great suffering later.
Suppose, you love music but your family wants you to become a doctor. Even if you don't really want to be a doctor, you just walked that path to please them - maybe someone will be happy with it, but you will be in a kind of invisible depression. Sometimes when a relationship breaks down, or a loved one moves away, we suddenly try to change ourselves. We think, "No one will love me if I stay like this, so I have to be a new me." But such decisions often break us even more.
You need to understand that someone leaving does not mean that you are not good. In moments of mental distress, instead of changing yourself, give yourself some time, let yourself understand.
This life is yours. You also have the right to make decisions. You can take advice if you want, listen to your family, but the final word should be yours. If your inner "no" cannot accept a job, then maybe it is not for you. Take time, think, understand and then make a decision.
Don't force yourself to change. Make changes, but let it be from your own heart's desire. Give importance to your own desires, love yourself. If someone truly loves you, they will accept you as you are. Don't forget to share your feedback. Thank you everyone, stay well, be honest with yourself.