I've never lost someone very dear to me before, thanks to God but I have lost distant relatives and friends, and I can say I know how much it hurts to lose someone to the cold hands of death. It's never a feeling to get used to and one we don't even wish for our most hated person to experience but sadly, it's one we can't overcome.
I've read, seen in movies and even seen some persons go through loss in reality, there are countless ways they try to cope with it. Some give up right there, losing their lives too whether by death or just waiting to see death. While some throw tantrums, put blames and hate the blame source to feel good and some fight to start over.
I've had many losses in my life and now that I think about, I do have a resilient spirit go overcome the darkness that comes with a loss strike. Maybe, not resilient but there is always this relax feeling I tend to find whenever I'm faced with a loss strike no matter how big it is, like I said, I've not faced losing a loved one before.
The biggest loss strike I've had to face in my life was losing a chance to study my desired career course, and that is because I failed at the exam that guaranteed it. I can still remember how I kept recounting the times I spent in studying for the exam, how much I sacrificed to make be qualified for it and do my best for the result.
After a short while, I was looking out for other options to consider as I accepted that everything happened for a reason and I might just be putting my energy into the wrong channel to my dreams. Today, I don't think about that time and regret anything that happened. Instead, I've come to terms with my life and it's many uncertainties.
One of the things I find myself doing when I'm facing loss strike like the recent one I went through, losing a huge money. I was just calm and looking at what could have gone wrong, I couldn't say anything to anyone and just kept finding ways to recover the money back from where I lost it to. It turns out I didn't really lose it.
But I figured I was very calm and ready to accept my misfortune, it's one thing I've learnt from my mum. Thanking God for the fact that I am alive to have losses and gains, it's all part of living and the sooner I accept that, the better for me. Another thing I do to bear my losses is praying to God for the strength to overcome the aftermath.
Moving on after a loss is not always easy but it's something I've had to do for my peace of mind and have my heart open for new opportunities to erase that memory. A bible scripture said something about having losses and that is, But whatever was gain to me I count as loss for the sake of Christ. (Phil 3:8) and vice versa for me.