Having a partner that reads my mind? That would be terrible to discover, especially having lived with my partner since 10 years ago, and all of a sudden, I found out that he has been reading my mind. More like I have been an open book to him, so vulnerable, and why did he hide such a superpower of his from me as his partner?
This kind of discovery will raise lots of disturbing questions like, do you really have genuine love for me in the first place? Do you want to control my thoughts and manipulate me, or perhaps have other ulterior motives in entering the relationship in the first place? And many more questions to follow…
What if I hadn't entered the relationship in the first place and I found out that my partner had the ability to read minds? Oh no! I am not continuing the relationship with such a person. The thing is that I understand that for one to have a healthy relationship, they shouldn't entertain secrets; we should be open enough, but NOT to the point of my partner reading my mind, for God's sake. Imagine having all manner of thoughts I have at some point, being exposed to my partner without my consent—that's a breach of trust from my viewpoint.
So I can't even own my thoughts and share things at my choice? I can't even surprise my partner with some gist without him knowing it already. Oops! Where's now the joy of relationship if my partner knows everything about me at every point in time? I understand that relationships should involve mutual respect and openness, but reading my mind would look more like surveillance, or, better put, my partner is controlling me, and that means I will feel unsafe. Even my intimacy with him will be interfered with because where's my privacy when he has invaded all?
Sometimes, lots of thoughts run through our minds, perhaps out of what we heard or saw, and at that point, it's possible to have weird or bad thoughts about our partner, but yet, it doesn't stay long before we realize ourselves. No wonder this statement that "every thought is permitted into our minds, but not ALL thoughts should stay in our minds". I am a human and not a saint, and as a human, I can think silly sometimes about my partner, and he too can think badly of me. Imagine him knowing some of those thoughts of mine that I don't even mean? It could destroy the relationship. Someone told me something one certain time, and I concluded that my husband is a cheat. You needed to know the bad things running through my mind and waiting for him to return. I was just lucky to have exercised patience to really discover the truth before doing what was in my mind. I felt really ashamed of myself when I discovered the truth, and I was like, Good enough, I didn't do anything silly, but imagine if my partner knew what I thought in my mind even though I didn't do it?.…it could have been so disastrous to both of us in the relationship.
You see, mind reading is a no-no for me; it's quite complicated! I'm human, and at times I think bad things. Sometimes I have thoughts I am ashamed of, but most of them don't stay more than 5 minutes in my mind, so yeah, I am saying no to a mind-reader partner.
Will it be a deal breaker? Oh yeah, a deal breaker it is. Let me own my thoughts and share things with you at my convenience and bring our relationship alive even without secrets. Living with a partner who has the ability to read minds is going to be tiring, and to think that it's possible to have a 100% perfect relationship is weird. So clearly, my partner will be sad at a point to read my mind, and I too to read his. That's not love, please, let everyone be free.
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