A very close friend of mine, a lady, stopped being a fan of romance and anything love. She hated hugs and touch affection even from same sex. She had a pretty bad experience in her past relationship which was about 6 years ago and hasn't let go off what happened to her back then. She became someone who doesn't love love so much like a youth ought to: she had drawn some conclusions from my experience.
Two years into our friendship, she had become a little soft, she now hugs once a while but still do not like any form of touch. I believed she was gradually letting go of her bad experiences, she even became more open to talk about how she feels when she's happy, angry, moody or sad: she now expresses herself better. She made even made few friends in school and the fellowship she attends.
Gradually, my friend became more free and soft but still cringes at anything that looks romantic. And she is an intelligent weirdo, she is good at holding meaningful conversations: she also sings so well with a very beautiful voice. Oh yeah, she is beautiful too, in and out (character).
She Became Softer
Not too long ago, she was appointed as the assistant music director of the fellowship she attends. I believe you know how stressful leadership can be, the time, workload, dedication, commitment and others. She has about 30+ members that she leads including the musicians. She has been doing well at her work and carries others along, they even come to sleep over at her hostel, eat and chitchat together.
She became quite close to a guy who is among the musicians, though he wasn't present in school because he was on his I.T program. They talk and chat often and I wasn't bothered about it because I was so sure she would soon get tired of the chat and voice notes (as the kind of person she is) but, I was shocked that it did not stop there as they continued to chat and send each other voice notes on Whatsapp.
Has my friend become so soft ? Is she falling for this guy already? No let me give them more time
These were my thoughts when I saw how friendly and nice my friend sounds and acts on the phone each time she chats or send a vn to the guy. To me, seemed she was already blushing and into this guy but my friend that I know doesn't look like one who would fall easily.
This guy she chats with is a very good bassist, good musician as she used to say, understands dark memes and word rhymes, tall guy, caring, very attentive and observant. Guys! these were part of what my friend likes to see in her spec and this guy has some of it already, so, I was convinced they might get into a relationship.
He Messed Up
But guess what, this guy messed up the whole thing!!. I got back from church this particular day and I saw my friend acting unsual, it was obvious that something was wrong. I asked her and she laughed for a very long time and her face was a bit red. She said the guy she frequently chats with pissed her off, said that, he told her that she love him and should just tell him, confess to him.
Why on earth would you say such and act so stupid bro!. She said she told him that she wasn't and he kept insisting that she is in love with him. At that point I was already boiling from inside because it sounds so stupid for him to have jumped to conclusion and even insisting? . She warned him never to think something will ever happen between then again only for her to come back from church the following sunday and was looking so furious.
This guy had told some people in the church that she, my friend loves him. I was so pissed by his stupidity, because that was a very wrong approach to ask / know if a lady loves a guy. Yes, my friend gave him attention but that is not enough reason to draw a conclusion that she loved him.
Now this guy is back from I.T and present in church, he was still convinved that something can become better between both of them, still texting her and trying to be so nice...arggghh..... my God, I felt so bad for my friend, someone my other friends and I was still hoping would heal completely from her past relationship experience has now had another crazy one. She felt so embarassed that she gave her time to always chat with him and it turned to an annoying story she won't forget soon.