I'm randomly reminded of the Footrot Flats movie that I saw where Wal decides on some fitness program that he's "GOING TO START RIGHT AWAY!" then promptly takes an injury and limps offscreen appending "...starting tomorrow."
I'm always happy to listen to people complaining if they need to get something out of their system. Sometimes I can even help or advise if they need/want it.
I no longer have the friends who used to whinge about how nobody ever helps or advises them on how to fix the problems that they're having but whenever I did then try to offer advice/help they would immediately whinge about how everyone always tries to jump in and fix the problems instead of just listening
The ones that aren't allowed to complain anymore (or at least not without getting a snarky response) are the chronic complainers who refuse to take any steps to fix whatever it is they're complaining about.
some leeway for when they're trying and failing or it's taking an obscenely long time or in some monumentally stupid workplaces where they're literally being forced to put up with it or quit and they're basically stuck there til they find another job which apparently is still not the easiest thing to be doing right now
In some fairness to a lot of people "feeling like" something at the time is a massive productivity boost (I very rarely "feel like" cleaning the house but when I do get into that mood which is usually probably unhealthily driven by rage and nothing positive I get so much more done than when I'm just having to do it because it's on the schedule and the schedule is how I get the things that I never, ever want to do at all done) so they (incorrectly) "feel like" there's no point if they don't "feel like" it (I used to do this once upon a time).
RE: Do, or Not to Do