心理学家荣格说：你的潜意识正在操控你的人生，你却称其为命运。
记得国庆期间，我去电影院看了女排《夺冠》，当时有一幕让我当场哭得稀里哗啦。 现任的中国女排国家队队长朱婷，从河南农村走出来，上面有姐姐，下面有弟弟妹妹，家里条件不好，她很努力，但从小的成长环境，让她极度缺乏安全感。 看到家里的负担很大，她甚至给自己留了一条退路，退出排球，去广东打工。 让我想起了大学毕业，也曾在人生的十字路口无数次徘徊：向右就是和身边大多数人一样，选择一份安稳的工作；向左的梦想之路，注定荆棘遍布，前途未知。 在内心不安全感的驱动下，当年的我，犹豫再三，选择了向右。才有了之后又不甘心平庸，为了梦想，两次考研，国企裸辞，单枪匹马沪漂的坎坷经历。 相信这也是大部分穷人家孩子的通病，因为穷，缺乏大胆和魄力，缺少了面对人生的底气，最终的结果就只能在命运的沉浮之间摇摆不定。 直到郎平大声告诉她， “朱婷，你去打工人家都嫌你高。” 朱婷才知道，她已经没有退路了。 这一次，她必须为了女排梦，为了成为更好的自己全力以赴，才有了后来被多次评为MVP，成为最大腕的体育明星朱婷。
哈佛大学曾做过一个科学研究，分析出一个人没有出息的9大根源：
1、犹豫不决：比鲁莽更糟糕的是犹豫不决。
2、拖延：计划很丰满，执行很骨感。
3、三分钟热度：世界上有80%的失败都源于半途而废。
4、害怕拒绝：厚重而脆弱的自尊。
5、自我设限：杀死自己的潜能力。
6、逃避现实：只会是白日梦想家。
7、总找借口：错不在我。
8、恐惧：谨小慎微的懦弱。
9、拒绝学习：宁愿吃生活的苦，也不愿吃学习的苦
Psychologist Jung said: "Your subconscious is controlling your life, but you call it fate."
I remember during the National Day holiday, I went to the cinema to watch the movie "Leap" about the Chinese women's volleyball team winning the championship. There was a scene that made me cry uncontrollably on the spot. Zhu Ting, the current captain of the Chinese women's volleyball national team, came from a rural area in Henan Province. She has older sisters and younger siblings, and her family's conditions were not good. She worked very hard, but her upbringing left her with a profound lack of security. Seeing the burden on her family, she even left herself a way out, considering quitting volleyball and going to work in Guangdong. It reminded me of when I graduated from university, I also wandered countless times at the crossroads of life: to the right was to choose a stable job like most people around me; the left was the path of dreams, destined to be full of thorns, with an unknown future. Driven by an inner sense of insecurity, I hesitated repeatedly and chose to go right. That's how I ended up feeling unsatisfied with mediocrity later on, taking the grueling path for my dreams, taking the graduate entrance exam twice, resigning from a state-owned enterprise, and enduring the hardships of drifting alone in Shanghai. I believe this is also a common problem for most children from poor families. Because of poverty, they lack boldness and courage, lacking the confidence to face life, and ultimately can only sway between the ups and downs of fate. It wasn't until Lang Ping loudly told her, "Zhu Ting, even the working-class families find you tall." that Zhu Ting realized she had no retreat. This time, she had to go all out for the dream of volleyball, for becoming a better self, which eventually led her to be repeatedly awarded MVP and become the greatest sports star Zhu Ting.
Harvard University once conducted a scientific study, analyzing the 9 major roots of a person's lack of success:
Hesitation: Worse than recklessness is hesitation.
Procrastination: Plans are full, execution is skeletal.
Three-minute enthusiasm: 80% of failures in the world come from giving up halfway.
Fear of rejection: Heavy yet fragile self-esteem.
Self-imposed limits: Killing one's own potential.
Escaping reality: Only a daydreamer.
Always making excuses: It's not my fault.
Fear: The cowardice of being overly cautious.
Refusing to learn: Preferring the bitterness of life over the effort of learning.