In this life, there are some certain things you need to set as a boundary; even not, people will never take you for the kind of person you are. Let's come to think of it: do you really need to be harsh while trying to set boundaries with people? This is a question that has me almost every time it comes to my mind. Certain boundaries sometimes mean you are certain people at some level that you want them to be in your life, and I feel that is just the best thing to do because everyone in life has their own priorities, which are not meant to be jeopardized by anyone because it is their wish.
Then, as a person, if you really want to be part of that person's life, you do not need to change that person totally or try to modify them to whom you want them to be because it might never work in the long run. Sometimes setting boundaries really helps a lot, and the reason is most of the time people we are friends with or colleagues are not really in the same age range with us. Either you are older than some or some are older than you, but yet you still fall into the same caliber.
This also does not really mean you might be friends with everyone of your caliber. That is why you need to set boundaries because not all of them will take you for the kind of person you are, so this will make you know your level with everyone around you, and they will also know theirs too. At some point in my life, I have discovered that certain boundaries really help you a lot, especially when you are around people that are really close to you because those are the people that's really going beyond our set rules due to the fact that they are close to us.
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Now when you are setting the boundary, and It is guiding against those coming from the outside, it will be a signal for those in the internal to maintain their lane with you. What am I trying to say in this aspect? Imagine you are a friend with a lady who is far younger than you or a guy instead, and you feel, due to the fact that you're older than them, You want to bring down yourself a little, even not to just standard but to soothe you both as friends, and then at some point the disrespected you along the way.
This would be a very painful thing because at first you would think about why you are being friends with such a person that is far lower than you in terms of age, and you would wonder the audacity they would have to disrespect you in that manner, but in all it is because you never set a boundary—a clear boundary that will make them restricted to some things to do with you. There is an adage that says if the death from within doesn't kill a person, the ones from outside can never have their way.
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This is true because when the people from with have full access to you, they tend to misbehave, which you might not always want to react to, but when boundaries are set, you will be able to reject some things they do to you even when you do not like them, and if truly they respect your boundary, they will never want to do such again because it is what you don't like. Ina nutshell, in whatever you do in life regardless of the position or your achievements in life, always set a clear boundary anywhere you are,it really helps a lot and safe you from trouble.