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There is this question that often comes to mind anytime I see people acting in a bad way or being wickedness to others, are they born that way or they choose to adopt bad character instead, in this life we have option to choose from. Are these traits inherited from our parent or they just stick with us as we grow. I believed when we were born, we are in a neutral state, at first we learn from what we see around us, is not that we inherit any traits, we only learn this behavior especially from our parent, a baby will gradually observe how his/her parent act around them, just to learn and this is the reason why an adage says "Charity begins at home".
Nowadays, I think that charity is gradually disappearing in some homes, nowadays parent who weren't trained well or who decided to take the bad character way are the now raising children and also passing to them this bad behavior in one way or the other. Some do believe they were born that way, that they inherit their behavior from their parent like temperament, aggression etc. Someone once said if you give birth to twins and decided to raise them in different environment, there are chances that they will have some similar behavior. To prove this, imagine how some toddlers react, some are calm, and some aren't from birth, I saw this tiktok trend where parent try to test their children, not up to five years, gave one an empty plate and another two cookies with the hope that he or she will share if they find out the other kid have an empty plate, the first child shared with the other but when the tables turned, the other child didn't share but ate the two cookies instead, that could be an inherit behavior.
Children are soft by nature but adapt to the world around them, they are always shaped by experience and that stick most of the time, imagine a dad who always come home drunk or the one who like stealing meat from his wife pot of soup secretly, if a child notices these things, he will want to try such act or think it is a normal thing to do and with time, it can become a habit. Even if a child is trained in the good way, there is no guarantee you won't go astray if you look flexible or you can be influenced by things or people around you, you might be pressured at some point to do things that are against your good character and as a parent, no matter how hard you try to train your children in the good way, they might still choose to rebel against you.
But the question still remains, Why do people just decided they prefer to take the bad path instead of being good.