It can be difficult for children to express and process their emotions, especially when it comes to sensitive issues like adoption. It's important to create a safe and supportive environment for your grandchildren to talk about their feelings and experiences.
You can encourage them to express their emotions through writing, drawing, or other creative outlets, and validate their feelings by listening actively and showing empathy. It's also important to let them know that it's okay to have a range of emotions, and that you are there for them to support and guide them through this process. It's natural for you to feel a sense of responsibility as a grandparent, but it's important to remember that you are not alone in this process and there are resources available to support you and your grandchildren.