I think it’s really dangerous to insinuate to someone struggling from depression that they won’t be loved by anyone else, if they don’t love themselves. It’s such a lazy attempt at bribing someone into seeing themselves as something more. People can and will love you through your darkest moment, and that kind of love can inspire you to do the same for yourself. It gets lonely at the bottom, and to make a person feel even more alone, because it’s “easier” to not show a depressed person love because they’re “difficult” ... It just doesn’t help. I’ve lost many friends to suicide because they were afraid to seek help, and to show that they weren’t happy with who they were because they were under the impression that their moments of spirituality and mental poverty would make them lose everyone. They smiled through mad pain, and went through everything alone. I think it’s really important to let people know that you don’t only love them because of the things that make them a good and happy person. Because we weren’t always like that. We all have our times of sadness, depression, and all those other “negative” moods and emotions. Be there for people and show love unconditionally. You would want the same.
How I beat my depression and started exercise: I workout 5 times a week, mainly focusing on my chest and stomach. I practice calisthenics, using my own bodyweight to perform an exercise so I don't need any special equipment. I get 6+ hours of sleep and I mind my damn business. - But seriously, changing my diet and learning how to control my thoughts through meditation have helped me so much mentally, and physically. I don’t get upset about things I used to. I don’t let what goes on outside of my world taint what I have going on inside. Sometimes you have to disconnect, unlearn, and start over to get the answers. Not every medical professional is in the business to help you. Therapy and pills only made things worse in my life, and I was fed up with searching for help from people who only had “treatment” instead of cures. Telling me I’d have to live with my depression because it’s incurable, coming from doctors who spent years studying this thing? Lol. Like I was just going to accept and believe that. So I took matters into my own hands and changed a lots of thing about my lifestyle and way of thinking. Here I am, after 6 years of “incurable” depression, feeling amazing and loving every single thing about myself.
I do not advocate for taking medication when it comes to mental health, or basically any other “incurable” illness. Simply because large pharmaceuticals make bank off for keeping you sick and only prescribing meds that will only temporarily help, until it’s time re-up. There is no money in the distribution of a cure. If medication is you’re remedy, I do not judge you. It’s simply not for me, and I would never recommend it for anyone else due to my beliefs. - If you’re interested healing yourself and you cannot figure out where to begin, take a look at what methods you’re using now. Are they helping?