Women say that they know whether or not they will sleep with a guy, within the first 10 seconds of meeting him.
They also say that once they have made up their mind about him, they rarely change it. Mainly because the guy often proves them right, by continuing to do or say things that take him further and further away from the possibility of ever seeing her naked.
Wow... ten seconds... that seems kinda harsh and even premature, doesn't it?
But, fear not. Just because most men end up proving her right beyond those first 10 seconds doesn't mean that you have to do the same.
And... the fact that women wait beyond the first 10 seconds to see if the guy recovers means that they are willing to give him another chance (or two) to make up for his initial mistakes.
Maybe you're meeting her for the very first time. Maybe you're flirting with her from a distance. Or maybe you're on that first date and want to impress her right away.
Whatever the situation may be... with this report in your arsenal, you'll start to sway her "likeness" meter towards you within the first 10 to 30 seconds of meeting her.
You'll learn what to do - as well as what not to do - within those first 30 seconds, to impress her, attract her, and be on your way to seducing her.
What you do after that is up to you. ;-)
First Look
So, you're out somewhere, maybe at that hot, new club... or just at the grocery store. It doesn't matter where.
If you've just noticed her, chances are she has already seen you...and she has started to size you up.
Most men's brains somehow get switched off when they see an attractive woman, and they start doing some very weird things.
Moreover, they don't realize that they're being weird, or just how weird their actions are, until they revisit those moments in their head, much later in the day or week. (Other men never get it, and they continue to do the same weird things over and over...and keep striking out.)
Many of these weird behaviors tend to give off the "stalker" vibe. Or they just make you look desperate, horny, and maybe even immature.
In other words, all of those unconscious behaviors help to push her away from you.
So...first of all, don't stare, especially not from a distance. If you're in a grocery store or bookstore, don't circle her aisle/row over and over either.
The longer you stick around staring and fumbling, without doing anything, i.e. without approaching her and saying something, the more weird you'll appear, and the less 'social value' she will attach to you.
If you can't think of anything else to do or say, at least get close enough to say "Hello" or "How are you?" within the first 5 seconds...in a casual manner, with a smile... even if you have to walk away afterwards to think of what to say next.
The key here is to say something casual and friendly to her within the first 5 to 10 seconds of seeing her for the first time... OR... stop looking/staring towards are, and even walk away - and let her wonder where you disappeared to.
It's always better if she comes around looking for you again than to circle around her without saying anything, and creep her out in the process.
Appreciation versus Arousal
When you do look at an attractive woman, even if you're seeing her for the very first time, train yourself (by practicing) to look at her as if she were a flower, or tree, or even a painting.
Why?
Because, as mentioned earlier, when most men see a beautiful woman, they have no idea how they appear to her. They don't realize what exactly they're doing, and projecting, or how they look.
Most of the time, the woman sees the guy as overly-anxious, fumbling, excited, desperate, or even horny.
Your jaw may be on the floor, you may stare too long, run into something, etc. (Read: You may be treating her like a piece of meat, without realizing that you're doing it.)
So... when you practice looking at her the way you do when appreciating other beautiful things (read: things that you don't want to undress and jump into bed with,) you will give off the energy of someone who acknowledges her 'outer' beauty, but isn't already head-over-heals for her (read: stalker vibe,) without even finding out who she is as a person.
In other words, you'll give off the aura/energy that you have been around - and have even dated - beautiful women before.
And, that would immediately raise your social value in her eyes...and it will separate you from all the other men that are staring at her, or have stared at her in the past.
In other words, it makes you more attractive in her eyes...even before you have said a word to her.
Loosen Her Up
This is another no-brainer way to get her to start liking you immediately. Yet, for some reason, most guys don't use it...or they wait until they're put on the spot to think of what to do.
I'm referring to humor, of course. Making her laugh is one of the best ways to loosen up right away and get her to warm up to you quickly.
But, as I stated above, most guys wait until they are in front of the woman... and that's when they struggle to come up with something funny to say. Obviously, whatever they come up with tends to usually sound forced, stupid, or even off-color.
So, prepare ahead of time. Come up with some funny jokes or one-liners that you can use within the first 10 seconds of meeting her.
If you'd like to appear more spontaneous - and not look like you had prepared in advance, you can think about where you're going to go... a club, grocery store, bookstore, park, whatever... and then, come up with some funny comments or observations you could make in those particular locations.
In other words, you can still prepare your jokes or funny comments ahead of time, and yet come across as spontaneous or naturally funny - if you prefer to come across in that way.
Important: Stay away from jokes or comments that are sexual, political, religious, and especially racial.
If you happen to offend her by making fun of her religion, ethnicity, political views, beliefs, etc. you will have a very difficult time trying to get her to like you again.
Treat Others Well
Men who appear to be jerks for no apparent reason will only attract women that are the clingy, insecure, drama queen types.
All the sane women will avoid you like the plague, if you treat others around you harshly.
It won't even matter if you treat her like a princess while you're being a jerk to everybody else. That's in fact worse, because she'll assume that you're only being nice to her to get into her pants. In other words, she'll assume that your default setting is that of a jerk.
On the other hand, doing little things like thanking the door man, smiling and/or being nice to a cashier who is obviously tired and frustrated, or even forgiving the server's mistake, will make you more attractive in the woman's eyes.
This does not mean that you have to become a pushover. It simply means that you can understand and appreciate the daily struggles of other people, and you can empathize with them. It also means that you can maintain your composure, and keep your cool, if little things go wrong.
Treating others well actually shows your strength rather than your weakness, unlike what most men would believe.
It's easy to be a jerk. Anybody can be one. But, it takes a real man to appreciate, understand, and treat others well.
And real women find it to be a very attractive quality.
Handling Other Men
This one is not about being macho. In fact, it's the exact opposite.
If you're with a woman that you're interested in, even if you're meeting her for the first time, be very careful about how to react around other men, especially the men that she knows.
Let's say that you met a woman at the club, you walked up to her and started chatting her up.
But, you didn't realize that she had another guy friend around...whether or not he is someone that she has known for long.
And, pretty soon, the guy comes around...or she pulls him from the side and introduces him to you.
Now... this guy could be someone that she has only known for 5 minutes, it could be her best friend, or it could even be her boyfriend.
You don't know who he really is to her. And, she likes it that way.
So, when she does introduce him to you...or even if he just shows up suddenly, how you react and interact with him will dictate whether she starts to like you more...or less.
The bottom line is, act civilized, even if you do find that the guy is her boyfriend. (She may very well be about to break up with him. You just don't know. So don't blow your potential opportunity.)
Don't lose your cool, don't get jealous, don't try to be macho nor get into a pissing contest with him, and definitely don't be a jerk to him.
She may very well be testing your metal, by introducing you to another guy. So, smile, keep your cool, and just have fun.
Don't Fall In Love
This is a mistake most guys continue to make, and they just don't realize how quickly and strongly it repels a woman away from them.
Remember the stalker vibe we referred to earlier? It's when guys start seeing (and staring) at a women like she's an angel descended from heaven, even if they know nothing about who she really is.
In other words, they tend to "fall in love" with her, or put her on a pedestal, without knowing anything about her.
What they're really doing is broadcasting to the woman that they're very inexperienced, immature, and that they haven't been around women much - if at all.
So... don't act like you want to marry her already, or that you're madly in love with her...or even that you want to make her your girlfriend... especially if you've just met her.
Get to know her a little more (and show her that this isn't your first time.)
You can flirt with her a little. But, don't do too much, and be sure to take it away from time to time.
You should have your own opinions when talking to her, i.e. don't agree with everything she says, and don't kiss up to her.
You can even poke fun at her a little. This will actually help to attract her more to you, believe it or not. But, don't over-do it. (And, as her attraction for you grows, your poking fun at her should diminish.)
Most guys would never dare do this stuff, which is all the more reason for you to do it...and it's also why this stuff works so well to help in attracting her to you.
Show a Little Vulnerability
We've already established that pretending to be macho is not the way to go. And...we've also discussed how you can actually show strength by treating others (around you) well.
Now, you can showcase your "sensitive side"... by sharing an 'embarrassing' secret, but don't go too crazy on the embarrassing scale. (It can't be something that will turn her off.)
For example, you could say something like...
"Okay, I have a confession to make.... I may have cried just a little, while watching The Titanic. And, if you tell anybody about this, I will hunt you down and tickle you to death!"
She may laugh at you for revealing this so-called "embarrassing" moment. But, she will secretly like you even more for having cried, and especially for having 'shared/revealed' that 'secret' to her.
The Art of... Hugging?
Something as simple as a hug can tell so much about you, to the woman you're hugging.
When men hug a woman they are attracted to, they either tend to give a very anemic and quick hug, which makes the woman feel a bit self-conscious... or they hug her with the intensity and aroused energy (read: too long and too overt) that creeps her out.
So, how the heck should you hug her, especially if you're hugging her for the very first time?
Simple. Pretend you're hugging a good friend, or even a family member. (Pick someone that you actually like.)
When you hug her in this way, you could even make it last longer than what most guys will do and still not creep her out. In fact, she will probably feel the positive energy and connection with you, just from that hug. (That's a great start for you.)
Obviously, don't make the hug too long or too short. If you can't figure out how long it should be, hold on to her until the very moment that you feel her starting to relax and unlock. You can basically mirror her release and start to pull away around the same time.
Shaking hands for the first time can also be approached in a similar way.
Show Your Moves
For some reason, women associate your dancing ability to how good you'll be in bed.
Hey, whether this theory is true or not, it seems logical on the surface level, doesn't it? Besides, you're probably smart enough to know not to argue with a woman about these kinds of things. ;-)
So... if you tend to go to the club often, or if you prefer meeting women there, you'd better learn to dance.
No, you don't have to be as good as one of J-Lo's backup dancers. Just learn to move to - and flow with - the music.
And, you can actually get away with dancing slower, as long as you're rhythmic and moving with the overall beat.
If the music is faster than you'd like it to be, you can still dance slower, i.e. at half the speed of the music. It will still look fine as long as you're in sync with the music and not off beat.
If you can't seem to get the hang of it on your own, take a class or two so you can learn the basics. That's really all you need.
Remember, it's not about how many new moves you can show off. The key is to move in time with the music, and to be comfortable while doing it.
Getting That Drink
While we're on the subject of clubs and bars, your ability to get the bartender's attention quickly can also rack you some major attraction points, immediately.
Yes, I know it's silly. But, for some reason, many women are impressed by this skill. And, in their mind, they tend to attach more social value, and respect, to you.
I suppose, in some ways, how quickly you can get the bartender's attention relays how well you can relate to people in general, how assertive and confident you are around others, or whatever.
And listen, you may not necessarily be getting the drink for her when you attempt to flag the bartender. You may be doing it for yourself and/or for your friends... and she may just happen to be in the area, without your realizing or knowing about it.
Then, later that evening, you may notice her and try to talk to her. And, for some reason - unknown to you, she may not be too interested in you.
(Yes, these little incidents are always revealing your true personality to women around you, without your realizing it. And, these little things can all help or hurt your chances of seducing her later.)
Stand Out
Many of the tips I've already shared in this report will also help you to stand out of the crowd, i.e. it will separate you from most of the other guys out there.
That, in itself, can make you appear more attractive in the eyes of women.
But, you can separate yourself from the crowd from the very beginning, even before you go up and talk to a woman. (Remember, she may start sizing you up before you approach her, so your 10 seconds may often start sooner than you think.)
A great, and powerful, way to stand out among other men is to dress in a slightly different way from everybody else. (But, you don't have to go overboard with this.)
Just one item or accessory can add that "bam" effect to your look... whether it's a cool funky tie, a hat, glasses/shades, or whatever.
The basic rule here is, do not dress to "blend in" with the rest of the crowd. If you do, you'll end up being just another chump among the dozens (or hundreds) of others around her.
Dressing just slightly different from everybody else will also make you appear unique, self-confident, and maybe even someone she can imagine herself having a lot of fun with.
Surprise Her
Another way in which you can grab her attention, and attract her to you, is to surprise her - in a positive way.
There are lots of ways you can do this.
Many of the things I've already shared above have a little bit of the surprise and uniqueness elements built into them.
Another simple way to do it is to plan something different for your first date, or meeting, with her.
If all you do is stay away from the 'dinner, drinks, and a movie' theme, you'll already be off to a good start.
Think of something fun, but not too crazy.
Taking a fun class together, or checking out a gallery, museum, fair, carnival, etc. can work well.
Remember, don't go overboard with this. And, definitely do not do something too romantic or serious. It's your first date, so keep it light and fun.
Whether you're exchanging glances from across the room, meeting her for the first time, or even going out on that very first date, the tips and advice I've shared above will get her to like you, be attracted to you more, and even be willing to take things further than she would have otherwise.
And, you'll be able to do all of it within the first 30 seconds of interacting with her, maybe even before you walk up and start talking to her.
Of course, if you'd really like to sweep her off her feet, get her ready to tear your clothes off after that very first meeting, or maybe even fall in love with you.
*This article is not written by me ;)