The writer Stephen R. Covey states that only a small part of the events in our life depends on the circumstances, and it is we who decide how our day will go. He points out that we can not control in any way 10% of the events in our life, but what we are responsible for, is how we react to them and and consequently the quality of our day will depend on it.
I want to give as an example something that happened to me last week. I set the alarm clock and I am the one that wakes up my son, but that day I did not hear it, I turned it off unconsciously or you know what happened. The truth is that when I opened my eyes it was too late to take him to university. I went to his room, woke him up and apologized. He told me: "Dont worry, dad, it is also my responsibility to put the alarm clock, do not feel bad that I will ask a classmate for the notes."
What would have happened if he got upset? Most likely we would probably have discussed, I probably would have told him that it was his responsibility to also set the alarm and that he could not leave the whole burden to me. The bad mood would have reigned between us, and from then on it could have spread to other people generating more unpleasant moments. Fortunately, it was not like that, his reaction not only made me feel good, but it caressed my heart to see how understanding and responsible his comment was.
Another example happened to me on Friday. I was waiting for the traffic light to be in favor, and when it was set, a motorized car went through me, so I had to stop without touching it, but he got upset, started to make insults that would not make sense to mention here. I kept silent because I did not want to fill my soul with his rage, and once he left I asked God to have compassion on him and help him, that would be the burden he had on him. I understood that it was not something personal towards me, but that his interior was full of anger, perhaps unconsciously compensating a deep sadness or despair in his life.
With these examples I hope you can see that although there are events that happen and are out of your control, you are the one who decides what to do with them, with what attitude to handle them, how to react, and from there you can have a good or bad day.
Today I wish you can apply this principle in your day to day, and that your 90 is so positive that the 10 does not affect you, do not get depressed, do not fill you with rage, but it is an opportunity to do better, make it different