Mini Motivation #50 - Why persistence in relationships may not alwa...

Persistence is life pursuits has always been heralded as a good quality.

"Don't give up."

"Keep it up."

"You can do it, just stay the course."

However, when it comes to relationships with another person, that same aggressiveness may drive the other party away.

Let me illustrate: Ginny kept on wanting an answer from Leonard about something, but he did not feel like making the decision yet, and he told her that. Leonard tried to explain his reasons, but she kept on hammer on everything he said, to a point that he suspected she wasn't even listening to anything he's saying anymore. Because Ginny is persistently trying, and not wanting to give up, Leonard was forced into a position to just give an answer to satisfy her.

Familiar? You've probably been in Leonard's position before, where you even have to resort to lies just to stop the other party from pestering you. You can try to reason with them, but because of the single-mindedness of their thinking, they just wouldn't let up until you give them the answer they want, in the exact way they wanted. Perhaps, they even think that if they give up on such a small thing, they won't be able to handle the bigger parts of the relationship.

Now, what if you're Ginny? Have you ever insisted on a decision from your loved one, that perhaps you drove them to a point to just give in to your demands, just so they don't hurt your feelings? You get the answer you wanted, you credit that to your determination. As a matter of fact, you even feel at peace now, to know that all is good. But that peace is short-lived, because deep down, the moments you try to force yourself to sleep at night, tossing and turning, thoughts heavy in your head, you know that it didn't feel right.

So if you're Ginny:

Learn to take 'No' for an answer at times. It's not about giving up or being persistent. Just understand that people need their space and time.
Use different approaches. Be flexible in your methods.
Wait it out. Perhaps the timing is not right.
Let it go. It's ok to have give and take in relationships.
Don't hang on to the fact that you are "losing" the relationship, because chances are, if you had been strong headed all this while, the relationship could have been over. It's just that you're not aware of it.
Understand that while you may win the battle, you could have just lost the war.

Mini Motivation is my own daily strategy to inspire myself. Mostly 3 minute reads.

From Motivation, we gain Inspiration. From Inspiration, we achieve Momentum. And the rest, they say, is history.

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Mini Motivation #50 - Why persistence in relationships may not always be a good thing