We are often too afraid of failure to try new things and pursue our dreams. The majority of people is, on their deathbeds, regretting the things that they did not do, not the ones they did. We all make mistakes here and there but they are not the ones we will think about while we will be taking our last breath. We will think about all those missed opportunities, about how we should have been braver and kissed that girl, opened our own business, visited that city, forgave that person, tried that crazy haircut that everyone was telling us not to. It does not have to be like that, however. I do hope that it won't be like that for me. If I die tomorrow, will I be pleased with all that I did in my life? If you die tomorrow, would you be happy with the life that you have lived? Did you travel enough, smiled enough and enjoyed yourself enough? Have you seen all that you wanted to see?
What is stopping us?
What if you knew that you were going to die, how would you spend your last day? Most of the people get a sudden feeling of freedom and think that now is their chance to do what they were dreaming of. This is because they have nothing to lose. In his song "Me and Bobby McGee", Kris Kristofferson made a verse lyrics that has always been an inspiration to me. Janis Joplin and Pink both sang it perfectly. I am not saying the other singers did not try, but those two ladies made the song their own. I am listening to Pink singing it right now, and here is the power statement from the song:
"Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose."
Kris Kristofferson
Not that it has anything much to do with this post but since it is my musical background, here is the youtube video so you can enjoy it while you are reading this. Thinking about it, it does have something to do with this post, it actually has everything to do with it. Hm, the Universe really does have the best sense of humour...
This is probably one of my favourite songs, it is absolutely ridiculously beautiful but back to my post... What is stopping us? Only our fears of failure. So what if we fail sometimes? Doesn't everybody? Our mistakes are our learning chances and opportunities to grow. The worst reason for you to not try something is your statement "What if I fail?" SO WHAT? Fail, get back up and fail again, who fu*king cares? Do you think that you will somehow magically survive this life? You won't. Everybody dies. Everybody. We could talk about the afterlife, reincarnation, heaven and hell or whatever else you believe in but the fact remains, this life, this one that you are living now is all you have NOW and you will not survive it. Tomorrow or in 60,70,80 years, you will die. Kiss that girl, hug your father who you haven't spoken to in years, go and see the world, change your hair, write a book, start your own business, learn how to do, be or have anything you want. No one is going to do it for you and if you do not try you will definitely not gonna accomplish it.
Bucket list
Definition of bucket list
: a list of things that one has not done before but wants to do before dying merriam-webster dictionary
In the vast see of steemit challenges, this came up too. It is called the bucket list challenge and it is quite self-explanatory, you have to publish a post about your bucket list. I have been reading posts about it for some time now and I have to say, all of them were absolutely amazing. I was nominated for this challenge by @katrina-ariel and you can read her list here. I did not plan for my post to look like it is starting to look, it just sort of happened. I sat down, put some music on, and started thinking. That is when, as usual, things started to go in a different direction. I can not shut my brain out, sorry, but do not worry, we will get to my bucket list soon.
Before I started this post I thought about how it was gonna be an easy one. Nope. Not and easy one after all. Visit Paris? Done that. Parachute jump? Done that too. Write a book? Yup, done it. Find the love of my life? He is lying across from me and watching something on the History channel... Start my own business and be my own boss? Tried, failed and trying again. Learn a language? I think I am kicking ass in this English thing ;) Learn how to knit, cook, change a light bulb, make furniture, sew, work with wood, metal, fabric? Done, done, done...Survival skills in nature? Learn that one too. Computer skills, web page design and programming? Done. From chess to martial arts, I tried most of the sports. How about art? I paint, draw and write, hmmm, so that is done as well. Hmmmm. Is there nothing I can put on my bucket list? That does not sound right. Let me think some more about this...
And here it is, my bucket list:
1. LANGUAGES
Get better in my Spanish and German and learn Italian so I can have 5 languages that I speak.
2. TRAVEL
Visit every country in the world. EVERY SINGLE ONE3. MONEY
I do not want to be the richy rich girl but I do want to have enough money so I do not have to think about it. I want to be financially able to do whatever I want.
4. FAMILY
I want to be a mother someday, soon I hope and I want to give birth and adopt as well.
5. BUSINESS
I want to have up to 5 businesses. I want to stay in the zen-art business of handcrafted items, open a firm that deals with self-growth and psychology to help people be the best they can be, have and run a zen retreat, have my books published and have my name on the shelves in libraries and stores and own a huge animal shelter.
I WANT TO BE A CRAZY OLD LADY WITH NO REGRETS!
Before I die, I want to be a crazy old lady with no regrets who smokes, drinks wine, wears colorful clothes, dances and laughs a lot. Life is about being happy, remember that. Smoking is bad for you, wine too, it can kill you but so can a car while you are crossing a street. LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH NO REGRETS. The most beautiful thing you could wear is your smile. You are beautiful, you are strong, you are a remarkable human being, unique and special. You can do everything you set your mind to, you have the power in you. You kid, are a star! Fu*ck the naysayers, you don't need them. You are made out of stardust. STARDUST! The Universe has your back, go and cross all the things from your bucket list, go and live your life as you want. There will always be people who do not approve, focus on those who do. Be happy, be proud and be satisfied. Love and be loved. I want my last day of life to be as happy as every other one. I want to LIVE life to the fullest and I want my last words to be:
I am supposed to nominate some people for this challenge so here it goes. I am looking forward to seeing @whack.science, @yidneth, @ana-maria, and @velimir write their stuff. The question is guys:
What do you want to do before you die?
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